Monday, September 27, 2010

Should you make sure your partner's astrological sign is compatible with yours before committing?

Class is now in session....

A few years ago I would have never dreamed of believing in astrology. In fact, I didn't know much about it and I didn't care too. I had read horoscopes in the past and they were pure bullshit. Yeah, right like anyone could predict my day, what a crock. Then cue in my last roommate---a totally dead beat mom, and not to mention a f*ked up loser. Before her melt down, she had a very kind and spiritual side to her. During her short duration of living with me, she began to fill me in on astrological signs. Now, I’m Scorpio so I know my sign down to a tee. Everything about me/Scorpio is true to form. Plus, my father is Scorpio and he fits the description like no other---but that’s a whole another Oprah. My eye-opener about signs took place about seven months ago when I began dating someone I thought had potential. My roommate and I got to talking about him one day and she asked me what his sign was. I said he was a Cancer. And come to find out, so was she. She was quick to fill me in on the mysteriousness of a Cancer and all their traits. She described what sounded exactly like the guy I was dating. Ah yes, both of these people were troubled sensitive souls. (And I happen to have a soft spot for them.) Then my roommate revealed these ridiculous facts, like how most Cancers are typically thin. Hmm…really? So my wheels started turning on this one. I thought about all the Cancer’s I knew in my life----my sister (as thin as a rail) my then roommate (had the body of a ten-year-old boy) my co-worker (super skinny). I asked the guy I was dating about it and he said he used to be the thinnest guy in his class. The revelation took place when I was having a karaoke party that same year. It happened when this random girl showed up. She was very tall and slender; her figure kind of reminded me of my sister’s. The first thing that popped into my mind was, “Are you a Cancer?” and she said, “Yeah I am. How did you know?” Amazing. I had never met this girl in my life, but yet I was able to pick up on that? Could it be that that this astrological sign thing is actually true? Totally intrigued, I had to look up on the internet whom Scorpios are most compatible with and wouldn’t you know....Scorpio females are most compatible with Cancer males. This just spoke to me, and suddenly a lot of things in my life started to make sense. First of all, my grandfather, one of the greatest people I ever knew, was a Cancer. We got along like no other. And then there was the guy I was dating at the time--- we were so compatible, yet our lives were going in different directions. I was heartbroken that it didn’t work out. I'd never dated a Cancer until that point in time. And now I’ve convinced myself that I will end up with one. My immediate thought after all this was: is this what I’ve been doing wrong? Going out with the wrong signs? Oh I was going to find that answer out in the next few months. Flash forward to March. I had just moved in with a friend. Suddenly, every time I turn around another guy is hitting me up and wanting to going out.  I'd never in life dated as much as I did before I moved. I'll blame it on the area I lived in. Nothing ever happened there, I never met anyone. Then I moved to a party city and life changed drastically. The first guy I dated while I was living here (we will call him Steve to protect that innocent) was a Gemini. I'd never been out with a Gemini, so I knew nothing about them. He’d recently moved back to the area and wanted to take me on a date. So I said what the hell, I'll go. We met up and he seemed totally cool....until he opened his mouth. For the life of me, this guy would not shut-up. He'd go on and on about the most dull and irrelevant things. It got to the point where I just wanted to shoot myself. I mean he was nice, but he just bored me to death with all his blabbing. Sometimes he would come over and talk his ass off and end up staying until the very wee hours of the morning. Maybe if he had talked about something interesting I would have felt differently. So anyway, I went home that night and looked up the Gemini sign. I almost died when I read, “A Scorpio thinks of a Gemini as a talking parrot and finds this annoying.” Omg, it was dead on…. “Gemini’s are also flighty in behavior and child like. They also tend to look very youthful.” I thought of my uncle who's a Gemini---he looks really young for his age and he's also a flighty bastard. Interestingly enough, this guy I was dating did not look his age either. He was thirty-three in the body of a twenty-year-old. Ah yes, Gemini pegged. His sissy la la side came out on the second date when a wasp flew over his head and he screamed like a little girl. Third date, I found out he played with Legos. It wasn't long after the fourth date that his flighty behavior took affect. He emailed me one day stating that he thought he wanted to date again (he had broken up with his girlfriend three months prior) but he didn't think he was ready to be in a relationship, but he really liked me. He just wasn’t ready. Thank God because I was not down with a thirty-three-year-old man playing with Legos. Thanks! Then shortly after this guy, along came Paul--- another Gemini. Yes, these Gemini's are attracted to me like flies on shit. So I go out with Paul and this guy is the typical Gemini asshole if there ever was one. It was unbelievable what a douche this guy was. After him, I would never date a Gemini again. Been there done that--- Gemini's are out. A month later I went out with another guy named, John who was a Leo. I know all about Leo's. My very first boyfriend was a Leo: Controlling, arrogant, and it's usually their way or the highway. And yes, John fit the description of a Leo; total douche. I could not deal with it. Okay, now I had to due away with the Leo's. Let it be known that my first boyfriend made me miserable and now I understood why.
Yes, I know many people say they do not believe in astrological bullshit and to each their down. But sadly, it's sort of like a religion to me now. And I can't force anyone to believe the way I believe. Certain things pertaining to astrology in the past year have made me look at life in a different way. Now, every time I meet a guy I automatically ask his birth date. I’m not going to judge a book by its cover…but when a man is a Gemini or Leo—please stay away from me. Why date one when I know it’s going to be waste of my time? Not to mention, heartache. We can try to be friends, but we will never date. Thankfully, I still have 10 other signs left. I’ll stick with those. So do I believe we should you make sure your partner's astrological sign is compatible with yours before committing? It varies. I wouldn't say you should focus your whole life around it. Just because your sign says you are compatible with a Libra doesn’t mean you should only date Libras. Many people who believe in astrology actually don't end up with their matches. Just like my blog, astrology should be a guideline. You don't have to follow it to a tee. So here are some guidelines in the world of astrological signs for the ladies out there.

Capricorn: 12/22-1/19:

Capricorn is most compatible with Taurus, Virgo, Scorpio, Capricorn and Pisces, and is least compatible with Gemini, Aries, Cancer, Leo, Libra, Sagittarius and Aquarius.

Aquarius: 1/20-2/18
The best match for an Aquarius woman is a Gemini man. Perfectly made for each other...soul mates. Sexual attraction with them is likely to be intense, as Aquarius finds Gemini to be very attractive physically. The Gemini boy and Aquarius girl combination is excellent because you really appreciate the most interesting qualities in each other. You are both intelligent, insightful people and you will delight in the amazing conversations that you have together. You also share each other’s taste for variety and new experiences, so you’ll have a lot of fun together. Your physical chemistry is strong and romance for both of you is more creative and fun with each other than with most other signs. You will have the best of both worlds in this relationship, because you will be both great friends and great romantic partners.

Pisces: 2/19-3/20
A Scorpio or Taurus man is the best. Scorpio men love to take control over sweet Pisces woman; Taurus men are possessive too - but more home-loving and sentimental than Scorpio men.

Aries: 3/21-4/19
Most compatible with Leo, Sagittarius
Can be good with Taurus, Gemini, Aquarius, and Pisces
A 50-50 chance with Virgo, Scorpio
Doubtful with Cancer, Libra, Capricorn, Aries

Taurus: 4/20-5/20
A Leo or Aquarius. They will be confident enough to handle all of her personality flaws.

Gemini: 5/21-6/21
For a Gemini, Aries, Leo, Libra, and Aquarius are your best choices, but your opposite is Sagittarius.
Now whoever said Virgo makes the best match should be given a few stern words since Virgos, as well as Pisces, are the WORST matches for a Gemini.

Cancer: 6/22-7/22
They say that your best matches are those of your element. (Pisces, Cancer, & Scorpio)

Leo: 7/23-8/22
If you want a truly accurate answer, you'll have to look at several placements in your chart....your Moon, you Venus, your Mars, 7th house, 5th house, and Juno.
A cursory answer would be, another Fire sign would work well for you. Another Leo, a Sag, or an Aries. Also, Leo gets on with Libra pretty well.

Virgo: 8/23-9/22
If you are looking for a love partner or match, then the most likely to be paired up with Virgo women are Taurus men.

Libra: 9/23-10/22
By sun signs as you are asking, Sagittarius, Aquarius, and Gemini

Scorpio: 10/23-11/21
The best match for Scorpio is Capricorn. Cancer, Pisces, Virgo are also good matches.

Sagittarius: 11/22-12/21
Fearless Aries' love of adventure suits Sagittarius to at T! The ram's natural leadership qualities present no problems for Sags; the archer doesn't mind following as long as the road is leading somewhere.
Both of these signs are repelled by rules and share an intense love of freedom. While Aries can be a bit impulsive and quick-tempered, Sagittarius brings a level of responsibility and sound judgment to the pairing that helps keep things on an even keel.
Being creatures of action, Leos pair up well with adventurous Sagittarians. This coupling loves to travel together and also shares great enthusiasm for the arts. While Leos tend to knock heads with Taureans and wear out even the most passionate Scorpios, Sagittarians seems to provide just enough grounding to keep the relationship on track. And of course, Sagittarius has an insatiable love to know just what Leo will come up with next!

Class dismissed.

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  1. Good job on your blog today my dear! I luv it!

  2. You've been working hard, haven't you?
    Very interesting! :) Although I don't really believe in astrology.
    I have one question. Gemini is when somebody is born in...?
    With this I'm awful. I want to know because I am aquarius and says feets me just fine.

    Sorry for my English.