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Love may be the first thing that a person considers when entering a relationship, but it is also the number one reason why one commits suicide, a marriage and family counselor said.<br />
Citing studies and personal experience with patients, Maribel Dionisio of Love Institute Philippines said love -- or lack of love -- is usually what causes a person to decide to end his or her life.<br />
Dionisio made the statement as two suicide killings in separate malls in a span of a week sent security experts and parents into a frenzy.<br />
Both the September 20 shooting in SM Pampanga involving two minors and the September 14 incident in SM North EDSA have been labeled by police as a "crime of passion."<br />
"The number one reason for suicide is love. The number two reason for suicide is no love," Dionisio said in an interview on ANC's "Headstart" on Monday.<br />
"It's about the lack of love, either from a special friend or from the family -- or too much of it -- that a person feels bad."<br />
Dionisio noted that teens are at a much higher risk for suicide since "they are still maturing."<br />
Given this, she stressed the need for "proper guidance and love and affection" to prevent them from "doing things on their own."<br />
"The 13-year-old had a problem and he did not share it with a responsible adult. The error is in not creating a network where the child can talk. So we have to do that," Dionisio said, referring to the young man who killed himself after shooting his 16-year-old friend in SM Pampanga.<br />
"Teenagers will imitate anything. Maybe in this case, this teenager is desperate, he feels so bad and has no one to talk to...they do the same thing."<br />
Meanwhile, Dionisio said parents should watch out for significant changes in their child's behavior to prevent suicide attempts.<br />
"Before they get suicidal, there's a feeling of sadness, depression. That's why the parents should be alert. Their ears and eyes are open. Watch out for significant changes, such as in grades, in going out and other activities, or eating habits," she said.<br />
<strong>Avoiding heartbreak</strong><br />
To avoid unnecessary heartbreak (which may lead to suicide), have your first boyfriend or girlfriend in third year college, Dionisio suggested.<br />
This as high school kids tend to like to collect what Dionisio called as "special friends," causing them to have a harder time staying loyal to their current partners.<br />
"It's the nature of a teenager to collect and collect. You have special friends, but not exclusive...Your mindset changes when you get to college," she explained.<br />
By second year college, Dionisio said a person probably has a "whole list" of special friends.<br />
"From there, you get the best. Just don't get the first one who comes around," she said.<br />
<strong>Acceptance</strong><br />
Single or in a relationship, straight or gay, children should be loved and accepted by their parents, Dionisio stressed.<br />
The love of a parent, she said, is crucial in building a person's self-worth which, in turn, affects his or her actions.<br />
"It's the foundation of the child to feel good about himself and to do the right things. Kasi the feeling is if my parents don't love me, the whole world doesn't love me," she said.<br />
Dionisio then gave the "ABCs of Parenting" so moms and dads can make their children feel important and loved:<br />
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<li>Attention - the regular time you give is 30 minutes to two hours per day per child. Make it a point to have a once-a-week date with each child so there is no competition.</li>
<li>Building self-worth - Emphasize all the good stuff about them. Children will slowly shut you off if you're always negative.</li>
<li>Communicating regularly - Know how to listen and how to talk. Listening means repeating in your own words what your child said. Paraphrase.</li>
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Asked if it's best for parents to add their children on Facebook, Dionisio said, "If they allow you, why not? But you have to know also how to behave."<br />
"Say nothing negative. Preferably, don't say anything anymore."<br />
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<span style="font-size: xx-small;">What would you do if your first love suddenly walked back into your life? This is a question Alexa Moore finds herself asking the moment she comes face to face with her childhood sweetheart, nearly fifteen years after his mysterious disappearance.<br /><br />In this coming of age novel, it is the summer of 1992. Carter Storm is a precocious thirteen-year-old child actor awaiting his big break in the entertainment industry. Alexa Moore is just a regular teenager, seeking acceptance from her peers. With heartbreak and humor, these two friends expose a world of secrets and learn to survive in the face of life’s contradictions and tragedies. When Carter’s dark life suddenly unveils before Alexa’s eyes, she witnesses her best friend beaten down mercilessly by his stage mother’s antics, but Alexa’s strong will and determination helps Carter pull through his darkest hours. The two are bonded by a love that only deepens as they grow. However, Carter’s mother will do everything she can to keep them apart, so that her prodigy is not distracted. As a result, the two are forced to keep their childhood romance hidden from prying eyes. When Alex discovers Carter’s family packed up and gone without so much as a chance for goodbyes, her world shatters.<br />Over a decade later, Carter Storm resurfaces as a Grammy award winner, with a new name, a new life, and an entourage of screaming girls and paparazzi following him everywhere he goes. When Alexa randomly comes face to face with Carter Storm, the encounter sets off a string of events that will have her torn between the man she loves and the man she once loved. How far will she go when the man from her past suddenly walks into her future?</span><span style="font-size: 21px;"><br /></span><br />
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<br />Edlundhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15784498556795051990noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8057211645422554017.post-72968584279724166362011-09-19T12:53:00.000-07:002012-04-06T14:18:25.768-07:00'Stayover' relationships defined in study<a href="http://www.jenniferedlund.com/">Jennifer Edlund's website</a><br />
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<span style="color: red;">Just two more idiots in this world.....DO NOT FOLLOW THEIR EXAMPLE!</span><br />
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<span class="pp"></span>Are you paying rent, heat, hot water, electric, cable and wireless Internet ... only to sleep at your boyfriend's house six nights a week?<br />
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Congratulations. It sounds like you're in a "stayover" relationship.<br />
<span class="pp"></span>You might not have heard anyone refer to your relationship that way — or any way, for that matter. That's because stayover relationships, while nothing new, haven't really been defined or studied until recently.<span class="aa"></span><br />
<span class="pp"></span>"I knew it was happening, but it wasn't being named anywhere else," says Tyler Jamison of the University of Missouri, who published "We're Not Living Together" this summer in the <i>Journal of Social and Personal Relationships</i>.<span class="aa"></span><br />
<span class="pp"></span>The crux of her research: While those interviewed spent three to seven nights per week together and hoped to live with a partner or marry someday, they weren't ready for that level of emotional, logistical or financial commitment. They instead cherished the mix of intimacy and independence afforded by their current arrangement.<span class="aa"></span><br />
<span class="pp"></span><b>New step in dating</b><br />
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Josh Keaton, 27, who works at PAETEC, and Cate Lape, 25, a registered nurse at Strong Memorial Hospital, met on Lape's first day living in Rochester. Neither wanted to rush the relationship, so they kept sleepovers to a minimum. "Your lives are connected to a certain extent (when you're dating), but you haven't made that next level of commitment where your home lives will be completely wrapped around each other," Keaton says. "You want to take it one step at a time. You don't want to go from hanging out once or twice a week to waking up together every morning and doing each other's laundry."<span class="aa"></span><br />
<span class="pp"></span>It's also healthy for a new couple to spend time apart so that each partner can experience that feeling of missing the other, Lape says, while at the same time reflecting on how the relationship is going.<span class="aa"></span><br />
<span class="pp"></span>As it got to summer and their schedules started coinciding more, they spent more and more time — and nights — as a couple. But they didn't rush to move in together.<span class="aa"></span><br />
<span class="pp"></span>Keaton preferred Lape's place in Corn Hill to his own and began spending more and more nights there. Before long, once or twice a week had turned into every night. They didn't feel the need to have a conversation about the frequency of their stayovers until the prospect of living together came up. Their conversation was about both emotions — neither had any qualms — and practical matters. They were both transitioning into their lives as young professionals, and they wanted to combine their buying power so they could live in a nicer apartment.<br />
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<span style="font-size: 21px;">On sale now....my novel, Forever blue, as paperback or ebook by Amazon Trade paperback publishing, and now the sequel as an eBook.</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: xx-small;">What would you do if your first love suddenly walked back into your life? This is a question Alexa Moore finds herself asking the moment she comes face to face with her childhood sweetheart, nearly fifteen years after his mysterious disappearance.<br /><br />In this coming of age novel, it is the summer of 1992. Carter Storm is a precocious thirteen-year-old child actor awaiting his big break in the entertainment industry. Alexa Moore is just a regular teenager, seeking acceptance from her peers. With heartbreak and humor, these two friends expose a world of secrets and learn to survive in the face of life’s contradictions and tragedies. When Carter’s dark life suddenly unveils before Alexa’s eyes, she witnesses her best friend beaten down mercilessly by his stage mother’s antics, but Alexa’s strong will and determination helps Carter pull through his darkest hours. The two are bonded by a love that only deepens as they grow. However, Carter’s mother will do everything she can to keep them apart, so that her prodigy is not distracted. As a result, the two are forced to keep their childhood romance hidden from prying eyes. When Alex discovers Carter’s family packed up and gone without so much as a chance for goodbyes, her world shatters.<br />Over a decade later, Carter Storm resurfaces as a Grammy award winner, with a new name, a new life, and an entourage of screaming girls and paparazzi following him everywhere he goes. When Alexa randomly comes face to face with Carter Storm, the encounter sets off a string of events that will have her torn between the man she loves and the man she once loved. How far will she go when the man from her past suddenly walks into her future?</span><span style="font-size: 21px;"><br /></span><br />
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What's the difference between breaking it off and breaking up? Simple. Breaking it off is after those first few dates when things could get serious. When you could end up getting invited to the nephew's birthday party or the obligatory cousin's wedding. <br />
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Dating the wrong person is like wearing a pair of shoes a size too small. It doesn't matter how long you wear them for or how many attempts you make at breaking them in, they're going to cause you pain. So know what you're looking for before you put yourself out there. If you're ready to date, you know that part of that is knowing exactly what you want. So here are my 3 tips for breaking it off before it becomes breaking up. <br />
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1. Be honest with yourself and with the other person.<br />
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This is where you really need to rely on that list of what you want. If the relationship you're getting isn't your end-all-be-all, then you need to share that. It doesn't have to be a big, heavy conversation where you pace and wring your hands. A simple "this isn't really what I want out of a relationship" statement will suffice. If you're dating people because you want to find a steady relationship, then this statement opens up the door to the two of you either discussing what you both want, or you can follow that with "so while I'm happy to remain friends with you, I don't think that I see us dating." Hold on to this, and don't be dissuaded. <br />
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2. Don't have this conversation on a date, unless it's the first one. <br />
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If you've gone out with someone three or four times, you owe it to them to have an eye-to-eye conversation. Don't chicken out and send them a text. Don't disappear off the planet and lose their number. Ask if you can meet them for lunch (a finite period of time) and just tell them. My only caveat to this is - you can definitely have this conversation on a first date if you've met someone online and you're just not feeling the connection. Be quick, be calm and carry on. <br />
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3. Treat the other person exactly as you would want to be treated<br />
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Ah, the Golden Rule! It exists in so many circles in our lives, and it applies equally to dating (both the good and the bad). I have been on some heinous dates where I haven't followed this rule, and it creeps back into my consciousness when I'm faced with a bad situation again. Be polite and respectful, and treat the other person with every consideration you would want if someone were going to tell you this wasn't right for them. <br />
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Yes, breaking it off and breaking up can be a difficult thing to do, but it's part of being human, and definitely part of dating. If you're feeling angst over this process, remember - it's worse to be in a bad relationship than it is to be alone.<br />
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<span style="font-size: xx-small;">What would you do if your first love suddenly walked back into your life? This is a question Alexa Moore finds herself asking the moment she comes face to face with her childhood sweetheart, nearly fifteen years after his mysterious disappearance.<br />
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In this coming of age novel, it is the summer of 1992. Carter Storm is a precocious thirteen-year-old child actor awaiting his big break in the entertainment industry. Alexa Moore is just a regular teenager, seeking acceptance from her peers. With heartbreak and humor, these two friends expose a world of secrets and learn to survive in the face of life’s contradictions and tragedies. When Carter’s dark life suddenly unveils before Alexa’s eyes, she witnesses her best friend beaten down mercilessly by his stage mother’s antics, but Alexa’s strong will and determination helps Carter pull through his darkest hours. The two are bonded by a love that only deepens as they grow. However, Carter’s mother will do everything she can to keep them apart, so that her prodigy is not distracted. As a result, the two are forced to keep their childhood romance hidden from prying eyes. When Alex discovers Carter’s family packed up and gone without so much as a chance for goodbyes, her world shatters.<br />
Over a decade later, Carter Storm resurfaces as a Grammy award winner, with a new name, a new life, and an entourage of screaming girls and paparazzi following him everywhere he goes. When Alexa randomly comes face to face with Carter Storm, the encounter sets off a string of events that will have her torn between the man she loves and the man she once loved. How far will she go when the man from her past suddenly walks into her future?</span><span style="font-size: 130%;"><br />
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SMARTPHONES, with more than 10 million users in the United States, are changing the dating culture of people in their 20s and 30s, a survey conducted by marriage consulting agency.<br />
The marriage agency asked 294 unmarried people aged between 20 and 39 years old how smartphones affected their relationship with their boyfriend or girlfriend.<br />
A whopping 79.6 per cent of those surveyed said smartphones affected their relationship in some way.<br />
The three best advantages of smartphones for their relationships listed were: saving on phone bills by using free texting services, at 41.5 per cent; greater accessibility to information on dating places such as restaurants, at 29.7 per cent; exchanging messages whenever and wherever, at 20.8 per cent.<br />
Free texting services or phone calls definitely save phone fees and make it easier for young couples to exchange messages or make calls, said 25-year-old college student Chad Singer. Dating has become convenient as information on good restaurants and to discount coupons becomes more accessible, said 27-year-old office worker Lee Bootson<br />
However, smartphones can cause problems in relationships as well.<br />
Of those surveyed, 37.7 per cent said that face-to face contact, hugs and kisses decreased; 30.7 per cent said interruptions became more frequent; and 16.5 per cent said the number of online rather than traditional dates increased.<br />
It makes me bored and annoyed when my boyfriend keeps staring at his smartphone when we are on a date, said 27-year-old office worker Hiliary Hyde.<br />
About half of those surveyed said they had had fights with their boyfriend or girlfriend because of smartphones.<br />
Twitter or Facebook was the main offender for 44.5 per cent of respondents. About 32.8 per cent had fights when their boyfriend or girlfriend became obsessed with their smartphone, and 14.1 per cent said spending money on applications and mobile accessories was the reason for fights.<br />
About 4.7 per cent had had a fight over their boyfriend or girlfriend stalking their ex.<br />
It is possible that your girlfriend can find out what you have been doing by reading your posts on Twitter or Facebook which you definitely don't want her to know, said 30-year-old office worker Chip Olsen.<br />
"I've heard that a couple got in trouble when a girlfriend found out her boyfriend was flirting with girls on Who's Here."<br />
Who's Here is an application which enables you to make contact with people nearby.<br />
We need to think about what's missing in our daily lives flooded with communications whether we are neglecting our loved ones.<br />
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<span style="font-size: xx-small;">What would you do if your first love suddenly walked back into your life? This is a question Alexa Moore finds herself asking the moment she comes face to face with her childhood sweetheart, nearly fifteen years after his mysterious disappearance.<br />
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In this coming of age novel, it is the summer of 1992. Carter Storm is a precocious thirteen-year-old child actor awaiting his big break in the entertainment industry. Alexa Moore is just a regular teenager, seeking acceptance from her peers. With heartbreak and humor, these two friends expose a world of secrets and learn to survive in the face of life’s contradictions and tragedies. When Carter’s dark life suddenly unveils before Alexa’s eyes, she witnesses her best friend beaten down mercilessly by his stage mother’s antics, but Alexa’s strong will and determination helps Carter pull through his darkest hours. The two are bonded by a love that only deepens as they grow. However, Carter’s mother will do everything she can to keep them apart, so that her prodigy is not distracted. As a result, the two are forced to keep their childhood romance hidden from prying eyes. When Alex discovers Carter’s family packed up and gone without so much as a chance for goodbyes, her world shatters.<br />
Over a decade later, Carter Storm resurfaces as a Grammy award winner, with a new name, a new life, and an entourage of screaming girls and paparazzi following him everywhere he goes. When Alexa randomly comes face to face with Carter Storm, the encounter sets off a string of events that will have her torn between the man she loves and the man she once loved. How far will she go when the man from her past suddenly walks into her future?</span><span style="font-size: 130%;"><br />
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<i>Do you really know the difference between real life relationships and fairy tale expectations?</i> <br />
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Here are some of the most common <b>unproductive beliefs</b> people sometimes have about love and marriage - and the mindsets you can adopt now to create your own real happily ever afters.<br />
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<b>1. A HUSBAND OR BOYFRIEND WILL MAKE ME HAPPY.</b><br />
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Although most women may say that they don't need a romantic relationship, the truth is that so many singles <b>secretly feel lonely</b> and incomplete when they're not part of a couple. Now, loneliness is not a bad thing; we all feel lonely sometimes. But believing that a partner or other material things can make up for the loneliness is dangerous.<br />
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<b>Real Happily Ever After Mindset:</b> A relationship doesn't make you happy, you make yourself happy, and happy people make happier relationship.<br />
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<b>Relationships aren't magical things</b> that take your problems away, they simply magnify who you already are. So the next time you see a happy couple and wonder why they have it so easy and you don’t, remember that any happy relationship starts with a decision to <b>become happy first</b>.<br />
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<b>2. RELATIONSHIPS ARE EASILY REPLACED.</b><br />
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<b>Relationships take work</b>. They evolve and have the power to change you and your partner. And as these changes take place, they also affect your relationship.<br />
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<b>Real Happily Ever After Mindset:</b> Diane Sollee, founder and director of the <span style="color: #660066;">Coalition for Marriage, Family, and Couples Education</span> says, "A marriage isn't supposed to make you happy and satisfied; it's your job to make your marriage happy and satisfying."<br />
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A good relationship isn't something you talk about or dream about; it's something <b>you have to work for</b>. Most of the time you have to swallow your pride, try out techniques you’ve learned, initiate closeness, improve your communication, and be more loving.<br />
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<i>(Important Note: Please bear in mind that we're not talking about dysfunctional or abusive relationships here. We're talking about the majority of marriages and relationships where love seems to get overshadowed by the stresses of daily life.)</i><br />
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<b>3. ONCE THE LOVE IS GONE, THERE’S NO HOPE OF GETTING IT BACK</b><br />
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In the case of couples who are have relationship problems, the <b>love never really disappears</b>. Usually it just gets buried under layers of resentment, unmet and unexpressed expectations, and too much pride to do anything about it.<br />
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Think about it this way: your husband tells you his ex-girlfriend--the one he almost married--will be working with him closely every day as a partner from now on. You know that they had a really bad break up and haven't heard from each other in years, but now they think they can work civilly together. Are you comfortable with this arrangement?<br />
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Of course you’re not. Because you know that if your husband loved her enough to almost marry her, then it's very likely that those feelings will be reignited when they start working together. If love between exes can be rekindled, then it makes sense that the same thing can happen with someone you commit your whole life to Remember, the love is still there, all you have to do is <b>work together</b> and find it.<br />
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<b>Real Happily Ever After Mindset:</b> A relationship will either evolve or stagnate.<br />
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Couples don’t grow apart just because. The sad fact is that they allowed themselves to grow apart, thinking that the relationship can take care of itself. We all know that we need to invest time and effort into everything else that's worthwhile in life--education, career, and business--the same thing applies (and goes double) for a lifelong relationship.<br />
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Because isn't a love that lasts one of the most worthwhile things of all?<br />
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<span style="font-size: xx-small;">What would you do if your first love suddenly walked back into your life? This is a question Alexa Moore finds herself asking the moment she comes face to face with her childhood sweetheart, nearly fifteen years after his mysterious disappearance.<br />
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In this coming of age novel, it is the summer of 1992. Carter Storm is a precocious thirteen-year-old child actor awaiting his big break in the entertainment industry. Alexa Moore is just a regular teenager, seeking acceptance from her peers. With heartbreak and humor, these two friends expose a world of secrets and learn to survive in the face of life’s contradictions and tragedies. When Carter’s dark life suddenly unveils before Alexa’s eyes, she witnesses her best friend beaten down mercilessly by his stage mother’s antics, but Alexa’s strong will and determination helps Carter pull through his darkest hours. The two are bonded by a love that only deepens as they grow. However, Carter’s mother will do everything she can to keep them apart, so that her prodigy is not distracted. As a result, the two are forced to keep their childhood romance hidden from prying eyes. When Alex discovers Carter’s family packed up and gone without so much as a chance for goodbyes, her world shatters.<br />
Over a decade later, Carter Storm resurfaces as a Grammy award winner, with a new name, a new life, and an entourage of screaming girls and paparazzi following him everywhere he goes. When Alexa randomly comes face to face with Carter Storm, the encounter sets off a string of events that will have her torn between the man she loves and the man she once loved. How far will she go when the man from her past suddenly walks into her future?</span><span style="font-size: 130%;"><br />
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Even when you were young and had no interest in the opposite sex, you already knew this truth: <b>girls and boys are different</b>, and there’s just no changing that. Even as women stake their claim in the world and men become more in touch with their feelings, there are things that each side will never fully understand about the other.<br />
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Still, all this does not change the <b>diversity</b> between men and women. And if you’re trying to grow <b>a relationship that lasts</b>, then it’s time you learned more about how to use these differences to your advantage. Here are 3 ways you can start now:<br />
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1. STOP THE GENDER BASHING.</b><br />
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It’s not about being politically correct. Instead,<b> it’s about being completely honest</b> with yourself. If you hate men so much, why do still want to have a relationship with one?<br />
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Making any kind of disparaging remarks or sweeping negative generalizations about males (that they can’t commit, they need to constantly be looked after, they’re all mama’s boys, etc.), even when you’re just with your girl friends does real damage to your current and future relationships.<br />
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When you say these things often enough, you subconsciously start to believe them. And once you believe them, you’ll always be looking for evidence to support them--even when you’re already in a relationship with a good man. You could start picking apart everything he does and might start to think that he’s guilty until proven otherwise. And no self-respecting person can last in a relationship when he’s made to feel bad about being who he is.<br />
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<b>Grow a Better Relationship:</b> Learn to <b>appreciate and celebrate your man</b> for who he is. Realize that he deals with his emotions differently. While you may believe that the best way to deal with work frustrations is to talk it out, he may prefer to keep quiet or decompress by sweating it out on the basketball court. Accept that your relationship is not a competition, so stop making him feel inferior by insisting that the way you do things is “much better.”<br />
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<b>2. DON’T TURN HIM INTO THE MALE VERSION OF YOU.</b><br />
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If you want the kind of relationship where attraction and sexual excitement will always be present, you have to remember that <b>the key</b> to both factors lie in your <b>natural differences</b>.A Kinsey Institute study suggests that women respond to more masculine men and men with a take-charge vibe are usually seen to be more physically attractive to the opposite sex. <br />
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These are the<b> masculine and feminine polarities at work</b>. These “opposites” create the tension that fuels attraction. In relationships where you try to become too similar, you end up being polite and efficient roommates, wondering years later where the passion had gone.<br />
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But in relationships where you allow your man to be masculine, and you let your natural feminine side take over at least once in a while, you will find that although the excitement and passion won’t always at maximum level, it will always be there.<br />
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<b>Grow a Better Relationship:</b> Your guy is not an arts and crafts project, <b>so stop trying to mold him</b> into your image of what the perfect boyfriend or husband should be. He might often be unable to take the place of your best girl friend who will know exactly what to say when you ask his opinion about what you’re wearing. What he can be is the person who will know exactly what not to say and a strong and steady source of strength during really tough times.<br />
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<b>3. KNOW WHAT YOUR PARTNER NEEDS FROM YOUR RELATIONSHIP.</b><br />
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No one wants to go through life alone, unloved, and unappreciated. That’s the reason why we work so hard to <b>build supportive, loving relationships</b>. It’s easy to pinpoint what makes you happy: you want to feel loved, be his priority, know that, at any given moment, there is one guy who thinks “you’re amazing just the way you are.” And it’s reasonable to think that your guy wants the same thing. But it’s not always easy to find out what will make your partner happy—or at least how to convert those hazy “wants” into “haves.” <b>The key to achieving all of that is respect</b>. If you value your partner, then his feelings should be just as important as your own, and his goals should be just as significant as yours. <br />
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<b>Grow a Better Relationship:</b> Recognize the qualities in your man that make you proud to be his partner and let him know about these things. In turn, be aware of the traits that he says make you the perfect girl. Let go of your insecurities when you’re with him, and try not to be too critical of his flaws. Be appreciative and supportive of each other, and make sure that you’re honest and open at all times.<br />
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<span style="font-size: xx-small;">What would you do if your first love suddenly walked back into your life? This is a question Alexa Moore finds herself asking the moment she comes face to face with her childhood sweetheart, nearly fifteen years after his mysterious disappearance.<br />
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In this coming of age novel, it is the summer of 1992. Carter Storm is a precocious thirteen-year-old child actor awaiting his big break in the entertainment industry. Alexa Moore is just a regular teenager, seeking acceptance from her peers. With heartbreak and humor, these two friends expose a world of secrets and learn to survive in the face of life’s contradictions and tragedies. When Carter’s dark life suddenly unveils before Alexa’s eyes, she witnesses her best friend beaten down mercilessly by his stage mother’s antics, but Alexa’s strong will and determination helps Carter pull through his darkest hours. The two are bonded by a love that only deepens as they grow. However, Carter’s mother will do everything she can to keep them apart, so that her prodigy is not distracted. As a result, the two are forced to keep their childhood romance hidden from prying eyes. When Alex discovers Carter’s family packed up and gone without so much as a chance for goodbyes, her world shatters.<br />
Over a decade later, Carter Storm resurfaces as a Grammy award winner, with a new name, a new life, and an entourage of screaming girls and paparazzi following him everywhere he goes. When Alexa randomly comes face to face with Carter Storm, the encounter sets off a string of events that will have her torn between the man she loves and the man she once loved. How far will she go when the man from her past suddenly walks into her future?</span><span style="font-size: 130%;"><br />
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</div>Edlundhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15784498556795051990noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8057211645422554017.post-20891166460663192082011-01-07T15:41:00.000-08:002011-09-17T16:51:29.690-07:00Operation....FAIL!<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;"><a href="http://www.jenniferedlund.com/">Jennifer Edlund's website</a></span></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiild_PlGTuv2PAd7W2Qz94a6D-W22BoVxt1c6qUkuaBHIxZKP4okBRYG3Q2oSn8AsfIq6cbo95DrzVp1bUkfCyCNSje13ggE5EOKYzP4GfwQmIs_yLzneHPYdOPT7nHTIyrfAjIqkyRWb4/s1600/ahole.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; cssfloat: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" height="240" n4="true" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiild_PlGTuv2PAd7W2Qz94a6D-W22BoVxt1c6qUkuaBHIxZKP4okBRYG3Q2oSn8AsfIq6cbo95DrzVp1bUkfCyCNSje13ggE5EOKYzP4GfwQmIs_yLzneHPYdOPT7nHTIyrfAjIqkyRWb4/s320/ahole.jpg" width="320" /></a></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><br />
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</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;">A few days ago, I wrote a blog entry about why dating websites are a waste of time. And many of you had quite a few opinions on this subject. Well, after I wrote that entry I got to thinking and I came up with an idea. What better way to prove my point about how bad these dating websites are then to sign up on one of them myself. So what’s so big about that idea you ask? Well, I thought it would be interesting to conduct a little experiment. The only reason I would sign up on a dating website, as myself of course, would be to do it for purely experimental purposes. This means I would find a guy that was semi-decent, make contact, go on a date with him and then write about the experience. Of course I have one rule: to only go on a date with each guy once. Meaning---when the date ends, good or bad, it’s over and we never see each other again. Of course none of these guys would know they are my experimental game and I could care less about not telling them. Anyway, last Thursday I signed up on Match.com and Plentyoffish.com. I immediately had to delete my profile from Plentyoffish.com. That website just wasn’t cutting it; it was like diving into a sea of losers, literally. As for Match.com, there was not one single decent looking guy who emailed me at the beginning. Then finally maybe after the first three days, I got a few bites from guys that maybe had some potential. I took the chance and sent them my number, asking them to text me. I wasn’t going to procrastinate with idle chit-chat, shooting the shit emails back and forth, I just wanted to get the job done. Anyway, about three of them did text me, but nothing ever panned out. After like an hour of mindless texting, they all sort of disappeared. It was back to the drawing board. Once again, all the fugly losers started emailing me. And then I got all excited when this really attractive guy emailed me, finally! I open the email and read, “<b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;">I’m looking for some casual sex and someone to spoil…. is that you?”</b> I can’t tell you that I was actually that appalled. Nothing surprises me anymore. Well, on Monday another good looking guy emails me. I was expecting the same result as before, but this guy turned out genuine. But unfortunately, the gig with Match.com was up. I was going to delete my profile. I still can’t believe with all the hundreds of men out there, I could only find one decent looking guy. What a joke. Anyway, I emailed Tom back and sent him my number. Tom texted me on Monday night and I got back to him on Tuesday morning. We pretty much texted back and forth all day. He seemed like a pretty down to earth type of guy, I didn’t really see any red flags. Tom kept his texting “appropriate,” which was a good sign. On Wednesday we texted all day and things still seemed like they were flowing. I just have to say that not once during this time period did we ever talk on the phone. This was purely communication by text message. On this same day, he asked me if I wanted to get together on Thursday. We decided to meet at a sushi restaurant. Let me just start off by saying that when I found out this guy was Gemini, I knew nothing was going to come out of it. My sign and his sign are not compatible on any level and I’ve had some really horrible experiences with Gemini men in the past. But what the hell, huh? I was going into this thing with no expectations and looking at it as a research project, like I said I was going to do from the very beginning. Here’s the quick down low on this guy: thirty-three, just moved here from <place w:st="on"><state w:st="on">New Jersey</state></place>, college educated, parents are still together, has a good job, and lives by himself. Seems like a good catch right? Again, I still wondered why someone who was attractive as he was would be on a dating site. I asked him this same question and he said it was just because he doesn’t really know anyone in the area yet. Okay, sure. I appreciate that answer. So yes, I did meet up with this guy last night. He was attractive; I’ll give him that, surely nothing wrong in the looks department. Ah, but then within the first ten minutes of meeting his guy, he throws out the f-bomb. Edlund101 followers know---this a deal breaker. The funny thing is that when this guy was texting me within those two days, he kept telling me what a gentleman he was and how he’s not like other guys. Oh really? Do gentlemen throw the f-bomb at women on the first date? But that wasn’t the only time he did it, this guy threw the f-bomb at me at least four times. Also, when I brought up that my dad had recently passed away there was no sensitivity what so ever. He didn’t really seem to care and never even bothered to ask how my dad passed away. He wanted to continue talking about more important things…like himself. Yeah, so I put off the f-bomb incident for the time being. What else could I do? He paid for dinner and so forth. No problem there. But it was in the middle of eating sushi that Tom asked me, “So you are a missionary type of girl?” I thought he was asking if I was religious or if I was a church goer. I asked, “What do you mean?” and he responded, “What positions do you like to use in bed?” WTF!!!!!! Are you serious!!!! I’ve known this guy, what? All of one hour and he’s asking me what sex positions I like? Edlund 101 immediate deal breaker rule: talking about sex on the first date. I looked at him rather shocked and said, “I’m not going tell you that.” Oh yeah. He got put off by my answer. That was the moment he lost interest and the date pretty went down the shitter. Hey, it’s okay. I was totally expecting this. I was just waiting for him to do something to break the rules, and he did it TWICE. Yeah a real gentlemen--- asking me about sex on the first date. Real classy. This just proves my theory about dating sites. The good looking guys on these things are only looking for sex. Needless to say, I’m completely done with Match.com. I’ve used Match before in the past and this was the last time I’ll ever sign up on their site again. Honestly, I don’t know if I want to continue on with this experiment. I was thinking about trying a different pay dating website like E-harmony or something. I’ll have to think about it. Otherwise, you’ll know when I post another victim.</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;">One sad thing about all this--- this would have been the kind of story my dad would have gotten a real kick out of. I mean it was so bad that it was actually comical. The moment I walked out the door that night, I thought about telling my dad, and then I remembered that I don’t have that luxury anymore. My dad was always fascinated and shocked by my stories about the losers I came in contact with. It’s moments like these that I miss him terribly. In my head I can almost hear what he would have said on the phone and I can hear his laugh. I hope that never fades.</div><br />
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<span style="font-size: xx-small;">What would you do if your first love suddenly walked back into your life? This is a question Alexa Moore finds herself asking the moment she comes face to face with her childhood sweetheart, nearly fifteen years after his mysterious disappearance.<br />
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In this coming of age novel, it is the summer of 1992. Carter Storm is a precocious thirteen-year-old child actor awaiting his big break in the entertainment industry. Alexa Moore is just a regular teenager, seeking acceptance from her peers. With heartbreak and humor, these two friends expose a world of secrets and learn to survive in the face of life’s contradictions and tragedies. When Carter’s dark life suddenly unveils before Alexa’s eyes, she witnesses her best friend beaten down mercilessly by his stage mother’s antics, but Alexa’s strong will and determination helps Carter pull through his darkest hours. The two are bonded by a love that only deepens as they grow. However, Carter’s mother will do everything she can to keep them apart, so that her prodigy is not distracted. As a result, the two are forced to keep their childhood romance hidden from prying eyes. When Alex discovers Carter’s family packed up and gone without so much as a chance for goodbyes, her world shatters.<br />
Over a decade later, Carter Storm resurfaces as a Grammy award winner, with a new name, a new life, and an entourage of screaming girls and paparazzi following him everywhere he goes. When Alexa randomly comes face to face with Carter Storm, the encounter sets off a string of events that will have her torn between the man she loves and the man she once loved. How far will she go when the man from her past suddenly walks into her future?</span><span style="font-size: 130%;"><br />
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</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><span lang="EN">Online dating is a big, fat tassled deal. We know this not just because Barry Diller has bought into it (his IAC owns Match.com), but because all the most killer apps on the Internet have been about finding things, whether it's old snowshoes on eBay, the name of a good locksmith on Google or your exact brand of pornography on those weird sites you stumble across when you mistype a search term.<span id="more-21406"></span> Why shouldn't finding a date or a mate be a few keystrokes away?</span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><span lang="EN">Except, of course it's not that simple. Which is why there's been a flurry of recent interest in Facebook — the 800-lb. gorilla of finding people — and not just from <span style="font-family: Georgia; font-size: 10.5pt;"><span style="color: black;">Goldman Sachs</span></span>.</span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><span lang="EN">Dating websites have enormous potential: theoretically, any single person can save him or herself a lot of trouble and odious evenings at the wrong end of the bar, by doing a little legwork online first — weeding out those potential dates whose attributes they could not tolerate and singling out those who look more sympatico. Their pool of candidates is huge, much greater than anybody could ever hope to meet face to face. And several of the sites, like eHarmony.com and Chemistry.com, tout patented questionnaires that help do the winnowing for you. Match.com claims that 17% of couples who married last year met through the Internet. There's some neutral research backing up their numbers. <span style="font-family: Georgia; font-size: 10.5pt;"><span style="color: black;">According</span></span> to a Stanford University/City College of New York study released in August, the Internet was the third most popular place to meet a new love interest in 2009. About 22% of all the 3,000-odd heterosexual couples in the longitudinal How Couples Meet and Stay Together Survey who met in 2009 did so through the Web. Only a slightly higher number met in bars, and the biggest proportion met through friends.</span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><span lang="EN">The complaints about dating websites, however, are persistent, and written about <span style="font-family: Georgia; font-size: 10.5pt;"><span style="color: black;">at length</span></span> in this week's </span><i><span lang="EN" style="color: black; font-family: Georgia; font-size: 10.5pt;">Economist</span></i><span lang="EN">. Basically, there are too many people telling whoppers about themselves, too many profiles of people who don't exist and, you know, the occasional weapons-grade creep. Plus, as Dan Ariely has so eloquently <span style="font-family: Georgia; font-size: 10.5pt;"><span style="color: black;">explained</span></span>, it's still an open question as to whether people can actually figure out what they want online, since we're a little more complicated than old snowshoes.</span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><span lang="EN">That's where Facebook comes in. While it doesn't have an official dating app, it certainly has a bunch of ways to meet people. Men often prefer to to do their date-fishing on Facebook because women are more open to approaches from guys who know somebody they know, even though "friend" has a very elastic meaning in the world of the big blue lower case F. People are less likely to lie, or put up a horribly inaccurate photograph on their Facebook profiles, because their friends will call them out. Of course, not everybody wants their dating activity publicized, so the more successful apps operate beneath the public wall of Facebook. People aren't exactly waiting for Facebook to create its own dating arm. Snap Interactive Inc., the makers of Are You Interested, a dating app that has a Facebook component, has seen its stock have a wild ride after Bloomberg ran an <span style="font-family: Georgia; font-size: 10.5pt;"><span style="color: black;">admiring profile</span></span> noting that it was adding more users per day than Match.com. Its share price has <span style="font-family: Georgia; font-size: 10.5pt;"><span style="color: black;">grown</span></span> more than sixfold since last month, although concerns about the app's real value remain. Zoosk, another dating site, has a Facebook utility as well. Others cannot be far behind.</span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><span lang="EN">The Stanford study cited above notes that a quarter of the people who met online already had some kind of social connection. Facebook would seem to present a way of overcoming many of the dating sites' drawbacks — including the fact that a lot of them charge a fee — while offering almost as many benefits. (Although if you're into shy introverts terrified of social networking, you might find slim pickings.) Not that the dating websites are exactly hurting. They still have revenues in the hundreds of millions and in 2010 was a banner year for Match.com, the CEO of IAC told Bloomberg.</span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><span lang="EN">But would people prefer to trawl in unknown waters or lakes where they had a better sense of the quality and type of fish? The angling metaphor breaks down eventually, because most daters are really only looking for that one special sea bass. A good way to find him, might be to see if any of your friends know him. If a Facebook app of some kind doesn't replace dating sites, it could certainly offer a reasonable, cheap alternative, always a scary specter for others working the same customer base.</span><br />
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In this coming of age novel, it is the summer of 1992. Carter Storm is a precocious thirteen-year-old child actor awaiting his big break in the entertainment industry. Alexa Moore is just a regular teenager, seeking acceptance from her peers. With heartbreak and humor, these two friends expose a world of secrets and learn to survive in the face of life’s contradictions and tragedies. When Carter’s dark life suddenly unveils before Alexa’s eyes, she witnesses her best friend beaten down mercilessly by his stage mother’s antics, but Alexa’s strong will and determination helps Carter pull through his darkest hours. The two are bonded by a love that only deepens as they grow. However, Carter’s mother will do everything she can to keep them apart, so that her prodigy is not distracted. As a result, the two are forced to keep their childhood romance hidden from prying eyes. When Alex discovers Carter’s family packed up and gone without so much as a chance for goodbyes, her world shatters.<br />
Over a decade later, Carter Storm resurfaces as a Grammy award winner, with a new name, a new life, and an entourage of screaming girls and paparazzi following him everywhere he goes. When Alexa randomly comes face to face with Carter Storm, the encounter sets off a string of events that will have her torn between the man she loves and the man she once loved. How far will she go when the man from her past suddenly walks into her future?</span><span style="font-size: 130%;"><br />
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Delaying Sex = Better Relationships?<br />
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<div jquery1293725890672="42" style="font-size: 14px;">Delaying sex makes for a more satisfying and stable relationship later on, new research finds.</div><div jquery1293725890672="43" style="font-size: 14px;">Couples who had sex the earliest — such as after the first date or within the first month of dating — had the worst relationship outcomes.</div><div jquery1293725890672="44" sizcache="218" sizset="6" style="font-size: 14px;">"What seems to happen is that if couples become sexual too early, this very rewarding area of the relationship overwhelms good decision-making and keeps couples in a relationship that might not be the best for them in the long-run," study researcher Dean Busby, of Brigham Young University's School of Family Life, told LiveScience.</div><div jquery1293725890672="45" style="font-size: 14px;">Busby and his colleagues published their work Dec. 28 in the Journal of Family Psychology.</div><div jquery1293725890672="46" sizcache="218" sizset="7" style="font-size: 14px;"><br />
</div><div jquery1293725890672="46" sizcache="218" sizset="7" style="font-size: 14px;"><b>The intricate nature of sex</b><br />
Past research on sex and its link to relationship quality has revealed two different paradigms. In one, sex is considered essential to a developing relationship since it allows partners to assess their sexual compatibility. Following this line of thinking, couples who marry before testing out their sexual chemistry are at risk of marital distress and failure later on.</div><div class="sect vert"><div class="ad qu" id="qu_story_2">The opposing view posits couples who delay or abstain from sexual intimacy during the early part of their relationships allow communication and other social processes to become the foundation of their attraction to each other. Essentially, early sex could be detrimental to a relationship, skewing it away from communication, commitment and the ability to handle adversity, this thinking suggests.</div></div><div jquery1293725890672="48" sizcache="218" sizset="10" style="font-size: 14px;">And past studies have shown the sex-relationship link is a complex one. For instance, a 2004 study of nearly 300 college students in dating relationships showed that when couples were highly committed, sex was more likely to be seen as a positive turning point in the relationship, increasing understanding, commitment, trust and a sense of security. However, when commitment and emotional expressions were low, the initiation of sex was significantly more likely seen as a negative event, evoking regret, uncertainty, discomfort, and prompting apologies.</div><div jquery1293725890672="49" sizcache="218" sizset="11" style="font-size: 14px;"><b>Sex comes early nowadays</b><br />
In the new study, Busby and his colleagues looked specifically at timing of sexual relations. They recruited 2,035 heterosexual individuals who had an average age of 36 and were in their first marriages. Participants reported when they first had sexual relations with their current spouse; they also answered communication questions, which evaluated how well they could express empathy and understanding toward their partners, how well they could send clear messages to their partners, and other questions.Other items on the questionnaire focused on relationship satisfaction and stability, with the latter gauged by three questions: how often they thought their relationship was in trouble; how often they thought of ending the relationship; and how often they had broken up and gotten back together.</div><div jquery1293725890672="51" style="font-size: 14px;"><br />
</div><div jquery1293725890672="51" style="font-size: 14px;">Individuals were categorized as either having:<br />
• Early sex (before dating or less than one month after they started dating).<br />
• Late sex (between one month and two years of dating).<br />
• And those who waited until after they married.</div><div jquery1293725890672="52" style="font-size: 14px;">Relationships fared better and better the longer a person waited to have sex, up until marriage, with those hitting the sack before a month showing the worst outcomes.</div><div jquery1293725890672="53" style="font-size: 14px;">Compared with those in the early sex group, those who waited until marriage:<br />
• Rated relationship stability as 22 percent higher<br />
• Rated relationship satisfaction as 20 percent higher<br />
• Rated sexual quality as 15 percent better<br />
• Rated communication as 12 percent better</div><div jquery1293725890672="54" sizcache="218" sizset="12" style="font-size: 14px;">"Curiously, almost 40 percent of couples are essentially sexual within the first or second time they go out, but we suspect that if you asked these same couples at this early stage of their relationship – 'Do you trust this person to watch your pet for a weekend many could not answer this in the affirmative' – meaning they are more comfortable letting people into their bodies than they are with them watching their cat," Busby said.</div><div jquery1293725890672="55" sizcache="218" sizset="13" style="font-size: 14px;">He added that those couples who wait to be sexual have time to figure out how trustworthy their partner is, how well they communicate, and whether they share the same values in life "before the powerful sexual bonding short-circuits their decision-making abilities."</div><div jquery1293725890672="56" style="font-size: 14px;">Right now, the team is repeating the study on a larger sample in a longitudinal design – in which participants are followed over time. "We are particularly curious about people who report wanting to wait to be sexual but then they don't follow through on their beliefs, this may be a unique group with unique outcomes," Busby said.<br />
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<span style="font-size: xx-small;">What would you do if your first love suddenly walked back into your life? This is a question Alexa Moore finds herself asking the moment she comes face to face with her childhood sweetheart, nearly fifteen years after his mysterious disappearance.<br />
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In this coming of age novel, it is the summer of 1992. Carter Storm is a precocious thirteen-year-old child actor awaiting his big break in the entertainment industry. Alexa Moore is just a regular teenager, seeking acceptance from her peers. With heartbreak and humor, these two friends expose a world of secrets and learn to survive in the face of life’s contradictions and tragedies. When Carter’s dark life suddenly unveils before Alexa’s eyes, she witnesses her best friend beaten down mercilessly by his stage mother’s antics, but Alexa’s strong will and determination helps Carter pull through his darkest hours. The two are bonded by a love that only deepens as they grow. However, Carter’s mother will do everything she can to keep them apart, so that her prodigy is not distracted. As a result, the two are forced to keep their childhood romance hidden from prying eyes. When Alex discovers Carter’s family packed up and gone without so much as a chance for goodbyes, her world shatters.<br />
Over a decade later, Carter Storm resurfaces as a Grammy award winner, with a new name, a new life, and an entourage of screaming girls and paparazzi following him everywhere he goes. When Alexa randomly comes face to face with Carter Storm, the encounter sets off a string of events that will have her torn between the man she loves and the man she once loved. How far will she go when the man from her past suddenly walks into her future?</span><span style="font-size: 130%;"><br />
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A Michigan man<span style="color: black;"> faces up to 5 years in prison for reading his wife's e-mail</span> to find out if she was having an affair, the <i>Detroit Free Press</i> reports.<br />
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The newspaper says Leon Walker, 33, of Rochester Hills, has been charged with a felony after reading Clara Walker's GMail account on a laptop the now-divorced couple shared. He goes to trial in February.<br />
Oakland County prosecutors used a state statute typically used to prosecute crimes like identity theft or stealing trade secrets, the newspaper says.<br />
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Leon, Clara Walker's third husband, found out in an e-mail that she was having an affair with her second husband, who was once arrested for beating her in front of her small son. Leon Walker showed the e-mail to that son's father, Clara's first husband, who filed an emergency motion to obtain custody.<br />
"I was doing what I had to do," Leon Walker, a computer technician, tells the <i>Free Press.</i> "We're talking about putting a child in danger."<br />
Oakland County prosecutor Jessica Cooper, in a voice mail to the newspaper, calls Walker a skilled "hacker" who used his wife's e-mail "in a contentious way."<br />
In preliminary testimony, Clara testified that while Leon had bought her that laptop, it was hers alone and that she kept the password a secret.<br />
Leon Walker says he routinely used the computer and that she kept all of her passwords in a small book next to it. "It was a family computer," he says. "I did work on it all the time."<br />
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In this coming of age novel, it is the summer of 1992. Carter Storm is a precocious thirteen-year-old child actor awaiting his big break in the entertainment industry. Alexa Moore is just a regular teenager, seeking acceptance from her peers. With heartbreak and humor, these two friends expose a world of secrets and learn to survive in the face of life’s contradictions and tragedies. When Carter’s dark life suddenly unveils before Alexa’s eyes, she witnesses her best friend beaten down mercilessly by his stage mother’s antics, but Alexa’s strong will and determination helps Carter pull through his darkest hours. The two are bonded by a love that only deepens as they grow. However, Carter’s mother will do everything she can to keep them apart, so that her prodigy is not distracted. As a result, the two are forced to keep their childhood romance hidden from prying eyes. When Alex discovers Carter’s family packed up and gone without so much as a chance for goodbyes, her world shatters.<br />
Over a decade later, Carter Storm resurfaces as a Grammy award winner, with a new name, a new life, and an entourage of screaming girls and paparazzi following him everywhere he goes. When Alexa randomly comes face to face with Carter Storm, the encounter sets off a string of events that will have her torn between the man she loves and the man she once loved. How far will she go when the man from her past suddenly walks into her future?</span><span style="font-size: 130%;"><br />
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</div><h3 id="qqHeader"> </h3>Edlundhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15784498556795051990noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8057211645422554017.post-37835978041059546022010-12-26T12:58:00.001-08:002011-09-17T16:56:31.426-07:00Ask the Professor<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgaBiz13lB2USdLl15Zkdq3dvVoSV_Eiz_3kzyuib2JWcHUYJscK0MeDLGJofZQ86OoMyU9knupCFx5Jgz_GKBtav1oZhmiPiZS07Ie46bnOAUcXIAPR72fZ63plZbnM-ZjskeaZu-Mp73v/s1600/professoredlund.JPG" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgaBiz13lB2USdLl15Zkdq3dvVoSV_Eiz_3kzyuib2JWcHUYJscK0MeDLGJofZQ86OoMyU9knupCFx5Jgz_GKBtav1oZhmiPiZS07Ie46bnOAUcXIAPR72fZ63plZbnM-ZjskeaZu-Mp73v/s1600/professoredlund.JPG" /></a></div><span style="font-family: Calibri;"><a href="http://www.jenniferedlund.com/">Jennifer Edlund's website</a></span><br />
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<div style="margin-bottom: 0in;"><b><span style="color: black;">Hi Professor. I was </span><span style="color: blue;"><span style="color: black;"><span style="text-decoration: none;">wondering when I should I call a woman back after the first date?</span></span></span><span style="color: black;"> - Tim, Houston Texas</span></b></div><div style="margin-bottom: 0in;"><span style="color: black;">I can honestly tell you that I despise this game. This “wait three days to call her,” rule is bullshit. Listen, if she gains your interest call her the next day. It's not going to make you look desperate. Shit or get off the pot is what I like to say. We want to know you're interested, and frankly making us wait around for you drives us nuts. And hey, depending on the type of woman---this could be a deal breaker.</span></div><div style="color: #444444; margin-bottom: 0in;"><br />
</div><div style="color: black; margin-bottom: 0in;"><b>Dear Edlund 101: I have a serious problem. My boyfriend is verbally abusive and the things he says make me feel small, insecure and unworthy... what should I do? – Amanda Long, Colorado</b></div><div style="margin-bottom: 0in;"><span style="color: black;">Edlund 101 followers do not date men who are abusive in any which way or form. At any given sign of this behavior we are out. I suggest you DTB immediately. He is not going to get any better and odds are, he is just going to get worse. Get out before you end up in some serious trouble. I don’t get care how much you love him…..run bitch, run for your life.</span></div><div style="margin-bottom: 0in;"><br />
<b><span style="color: black;">I’m curious. </span><span style="color: blue;"><span style="color: black;"><span style="text-decoration: none;">When should a couple announce they are dating?</span></span></span><span style="color: black;"> – Jamie K- San Diego, CA</span></b></div><div style="margin-bottom: 0in;"><span style="color: black;">What’s the big deal about letting people know you are dating someone? Unless the person you decide to date is going to reek havoc in your personal life, then it shouldn't be some big secret. I guess could say that announcing that this person is your boyfriend/girlfriend is a more serious question. And second, you are not officially a couple when you are “dating”….unless you are dating exclusively. So it doesn’t matter, unless you just don’t want people to know. </span> </div><div style="margin-bottom: 0in;"><br />
</div><div style="margin-bottom: 0in;"><b><span style="color: blue;"><span style="color: black;"><span style="text-decoration: none;">A guy I've been seeing has tons of porno saved on his computer. Is this unusual?</span></span></span></b><span style="color: black;"><b> –Anonymous </b></span> </div><div style="margin-bottom: 0in;"><span style="color: black;">Men will be men. You can’t stop them from looking at naked pictures of women…especially with the Internet at their fingertips. It's in their DNA, although like everything else in life, it should be done in moderation. And you might want to take in consideration what type of porn he is looking at. Is it Playboy or hardcore. If it's hardcore then I would be somewhat concerned about the guys mental state. Also, if you notice that he has become obsessed with his pornography and it’s taken over his life and your relationship---you have a serious problem on your hands. However, if it’s every once in a while, it’s no big deal in my opinion. </span> </div><div style="margin-bottom: 0in;"><b><br />
</b></div><div style="margin-bottom: 0in;"><b><span style="color: black;">Edlund101: </span><span style="color: blue;"><span style="color: black;"><span style="text-decoration: none;">What age do you think is ideal for a girl to get married and why do you believe so?</span></span></span><span style="color: black;"> Brian Foster, Wyoming</span></b></div><div style="margin-bottom: 0in;"><span style="color: black;">I've always believed that no one should get married before the age of 25. I know a great number of people whom have gotten married at 18, 20, 21, 22...and most of these people have only been in one serious relationship their whole life. Actually, what does someone at the age of 18 know about a serious relationship? They are still kids themselves. Then you have to factor in that possibly when someone as young as 18 or 21 gets older and wises up that they will begin to see the light. He/she finally realizes that they've only been with one person their entire young life. And suddenly they end up with feelings of regret----regretting that they never had the chance to experience life and dating. He/she also might begin to wonder what it would be like to be with someone else That's when the trouble starts. And I know someone in that exact situation. I'm not saying everyone is going to end up this way, but statistics show that in this day in age when someone marries under the age of 25, it usually ends up in divorce. Just say'in. </span> </div><div style="margin-bottom: 0in;"><br />
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<span style="font-size: xx-small;">What would you do if your first love suddenly walked back into your life? This is a question Alexa Moore finds herself asking the moment she comes face to face with her childhood sweetheart, nearly fifteen years after his mysterious disappearance.<br />
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In this coming of age novel, it is the summer of 1992. Carter Storm is a precocious thirteen-year-old child actor awaiting his big break in the entertainment industry. Alexa Moore is just a regular teenager, seeking acceptance from her peers. With heartbreak and humor, these two friends expose a world of secrets and learn to survive in the face of life’s contradictions and tragedies. When Carter’s dark life suddenly unveils before Alexa’s eyes, she witnesses her best friend beaten down mercilessly by his stage mother’s antics, but Alexa’s strong will and determination helps Carter pull through his darkest hours. The two are bonded by a love that only deepens as they grow. However, Carter’s mother will do everything she can to keep them apart, so that her prodigy is not distracted. As a result, the two are forced to keep their childhood romance hidden from prying eyes. When Alex discovers Carter’s family packed up and gone without so much as a chance for goodbyes, her world shatters.<br />
Over a decade later, Carter Storm resurfaces as a Grammy award winner, with a new name, a new life, and an entourage of screaming girls and paparazzi following him everywhere he goes. When Alexa randomly comes face to face with Carter Storm, the encounter sets off a string of events that will have her torn between the man she loves and the man she once loved. How far will she go when the man from her past suddenly walks into her future?</span><span style="font-size: 130%;"><br />
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</div>Edlundhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15784498556795051990noreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8057211645422554017.post-33667627949170694062010-12-17T13:04:00.000-08:002011-09-17T11:59:33.188-07:00How to Use an Online Dating Profile to Catch an Unfaithful Partner<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgrS-lB2sbTgqnG81rTdI-xzlUKVynJMQHlGIFRS2wh1sVVUGLXlHrUAHGaCoW3WwFYRuAHHy3rNtD_HSTKDtizAz55ZeV5W14__b8Yc-XWV4V5GXrcSygHb9FM1g332VTKseLdQIXa3MBs/s1600/onlinedating.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; cssfloat: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" n4="true" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgrS-lB2sbTgqnG81rTdI-xzlUKVynJMQHlGIFRS2wh1sVVUGLXlHrUAHGaCoW3WwFYRuAHHy3rNtD_HSTKDtizAz55ZeV5W14__b8Yc-XWV4V5GXrcSygHb9FM1g332VTKseLdQIXa3MBs/s1600/onlinedating.jpg" /></a></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><span style="color: black;">Class is now in session....</span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><span style="color: black;">It was over five years ago that I was in my first so-called, “serious” relationship. I was just head over heels for this guy I met four years prior. And thus began a shaky relationship that lasted off and on for about four years. During the duration of our relationship, I had my suspicions about him. I knew some things were just a little off, but I continued to hang on to his every word. Our problems started when I wouldn’t put out. Don’t get the wrong idea. It wasn’t because I didn’t want to, but rather deep down, I didn’t fully trust him. He agreed to wait until I was ready, but his word only lasted all of ten seconds. He had no patience, so when he didn’t get what he wanted he would decide to disappear for few weeks, months and the longest was even a year. This was exactly the reason why I didn’t want to have sex wit him in the first place, because he pulled stunts like this. God only knows what he was doing behind my back all that time. It went on like this for about four years. Back then I was young and dumb and had no clue as to what to expect in the dating world. Knowing who I am now, I have a zero tolerance policy for that kind of behavior in a relationship. And if that had happened to me in this day in age, his ass would have been grass the first time he did me wrong. Anyway, after the fourth time we broke up and got back together, he seemed to really want to work things out. But if he thought he was going to get into my pants that easily, he was dead wrong. There was no way in hell I’d give it up that quickly after all the bullshit and heartache he’d put me through. He was really going to have to man up and make me believe that he had changed. </span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><span style="color: black;">Back in 2005, we both had MySpace accounts. One particular day at work I was once again feeling very suspicious of my then “boyfriend.” We had a conversation the night before about what I had to do to officially become his, “girlfriend.” He actually said verbatim that I had to have sex with him to be his girlfriend. I was an idiot back then. I was going to fall for it, but not until I eased my conscience. That day I came up with a plan. I made another MySpace account profile. I searched around the internet and found some pictures of a girl, who was pretty sexy. She didn’t look fake or photo shopped. This girl looked like someone he’d be interested in. Yes, I was going to find out once and for all if I could trust this guy. I played around with the profile giving it a phony bio, etc. And then of course I used this account to email my “boyfriend.” It started off as just a friendly email to him. I wrote, “Hi! Your profile caught my eye. Where are you from?” I wasn’t surprised at how quickly he emailed me back. His message wasn’t long, just a reply with, “<city w:st="on"><place w:st="on">Irvine</place></city>. How are you doing?” Yeah--- pretty harmless. The next day I took it a step further. Of course I couldn’t get down and dirty the first day, otherwise he would know it was a set-up. This time I was ready to catch him with his pants down. I emailed him that afternoon from the same account asking, “I’m doing great. You’re pretty cute. Do you have a girlfriend? If not, we should meet up sometime.” The reply took longer this time, but imagine the sickness I felt in my stomach when I read, “No, I do not have a girlfriend. Yes, we should hang out.” And I continued to keep this email going with one last reply, “How about this Wednesday? Here’s my number 714-535-1105.” He got back at me with, “That sounds good to me. I’ll call you in a few days.” Oh man, I was absolutely floored. How could this asshole do something like this! Unfortunately, my impulsiveness got the best of me. I immediately texted that douche with, “I can’t believe you!” Oh and he probably got the shock of his life knowing that I knew exactly what he just pulled. And that bastard tried to save his ass by telling me that it was his friend who sent those emails. Yeah right. Real smooth there buddy, real smooth. Then he immediately retaliates by throwing the whole incident back at me. He said he did nothing wrong and he knew it was me the whole time. I was just looking to stir up shit. Do I need to say that I DTB him faster than I could say his name? This time it was over for good. I had gotten the answer I wanted and I finally knew the type of person he was for sure. It’s funny; two can play the lying game. I actually told him that I had a friend come up with the whole idea and it was her that was emailing him. And he believed it. Just a stupid, childish, ridiculous game.</span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><span style="color: black;">By all means, I’m not saying that setting your boyfriend up is the right way to go, but when you have suspicions….sometimes you just have to act on them. A women’s intuition never fails. You just have to beware that you can only go so far with this. You only have one shot and if you’re not good at being sneaky then I wouldn’t suggest playing around with fire. It can be dangerous and you might get burned. And mentally prepare yourself for the outcome. Once you find out the truth it’s like a punch in a gut Also, know what you’re getting yourself into when you do something like this. Once the cat is out of the bag you lose trust on both sides, whether you decide to work it out or not.</span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><span style="color: black;">I’ve only done this one time in my lifetime. I would probably never do it again due to the fact that I’ve wised up about men. When I get the feeling a guy is doing something shady I DTB as fast I can. It never fails. The scary part is--- we live in such an advanced information technology highway that it’s really not that hard to find out anything we want about anyone anymore.</span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><br />
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In this coming of age novel, it is the summer of 1992. Carter Storm is a precocious thirteen-year-old child actor awaiting his big break in the entertainment industry. Alexa Moore is just a regular teenager, seeking acceptance from her peers. With heartbreak and humor, these two friends expose a world of secrets and learn to survive in the face of life’s contradictions and tragedies. When Carter’s dark life suddenly unveils before Alexa’s eyes, she witnesses her best friend beaten down mercilessly by his stage mother’s antics, but Alexa’s strong will and determination helps Carter pull through his darkest hours. The two are bonded by a love that only deepens as they grow. However, Carter’s mother will do everything she can to keep them apart, so that her prodigy is not distracted. As a result, the two are forced to keep their childhood romance hidden from prying eyes. When Alex discovers Carter’s family packed up and gone without so much as a chance for goodbyes, her world shatters.<br />
Over a decade later, Carter Storm resurfaces as a Grammy award winner, with a new name, a new life, and an entourage of screaming girls and paparazzi following him everywhere he goes. When Alexa randomly comes face to face with Carter Storm, the encounter sets off a string of events that will have her torn between the man she loves and the man she once loved. How far will she go when the man from her past suddenly walks into her future?</span><span style="font-size: 130%;"><br />
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</div>Edlundhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15784498556795051990noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8057211645422554017.post-82294726004031082442010-12-16T10:15:00.000-08:002011-09-17T11:59:01.993-07:00Jealousy: Why the thought of his ex-girlfriend drives you crazy<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><br />
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</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;">It’s been known that after a woman meets a guy she really likes, the subject of the “ex-girlfriend” will come up at one time or another. Try as you might, if you’re looking to get into a serious relationship with him you can never avoid it. I’ve had a lot of friends in the past tell me that as soon as he started talking about his ex-girlfriend, she would create all sorts of dire thoughts and images her head that were bound to bring up drama in the relationship. And it goes something like this:</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;">Guy: My last relationship lasted about two years.</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;">Girl: <i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;">Hmm…I wonder if she’s prettier than me. I have to see what this bitch looks like.</i></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;">Guy: It didn’t work out, but she wants to remain friends.</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;">Girl: <i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;">Friends?</i> <i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;">If I see her even come within twenty feet of you it’s on like donkey kong.</i></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;">Guy: When we decided to break up, she was actually pretty easy going about it.</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;">Girl: <i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;">Skank!</i></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;">And during this whole talk, you can’t rid the thought of them sleeping together. This leads to what I like to call the “Sloppy-Seconds” factor. Let’s face it--- everyone we’ve dated has most likely been in a relationship before you. You may be special, but you ain’t <i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;">that </i>special. To think that your man is like some new car on the lot that’s never been driven is unrealistic. In fact, you’re probably not even sloppy seconds. You are more like thirds, fourths, fifths or hundredths. Does that mean you should dwell on every single relationship of his past? If you do….YOU CRAZY. Not to mention, you got some serious issues. Mostly likely you shouldn’t be in a relationship until you get your head checked out. And I’m not making this shit up. I know many women like this. Everyone has a past and what happened in the past should stay in the past. Frankly, who your man dated before you is none of your damn business. Of course, no one is perfect and I’ll be the first to admit that I’ve checked up on a guy after he’s talked about his ex-girlfriend. Only because it gives me a sense of whom he is and what grade of man I’m going to end up with. If I discover that his ex was a total loser or complete piece of trash what does that say about the guy? As they say-- you are who your friends are. And this is usually the only reason why I do some investigation if need be. If you have to scratch the itch, do so quietly and then move on. Just don’t anything extreme. </div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;">In other circumstances, the ex-girlfriend might still be hanging around. If this is the case, there are reasons to be concerned. Although, there is nothing you can do if he has a child with his woman. Remember, it was your choice to get involved with him knowing he had this baggage, so if you can’t handle it then its best you hit the road. The reality is--- she is going to be a part of his life FOREVER. On the flipside, if your man has no ties to his ex-girlfriend then there should really be no reason why she’s still in his life. And don’t even fall for the “well we’re friends,” bullshit. We all know that at some point in time these “friends” will probably hook up again. For instance, I know a guy who is extremely on and off with his “girlfriend.” And guess who he decides to start playing nicey-nice with when she’s not around? <state w:st="on"><place w:st="on">Me.</place></state> Every time he breaks up with her, he comes running back to me, acting like he’s interested. During this time he will constantly keep in contact with me. Oh, I used to fall for it and I wanted to believe that it was over for good. Then after the fifth time they broke up I’d had it. I was sick of his sniveling and complaining. I’d been though his crying games so many times that I knew they would eventually get back together even if he didn’t want to admit it. It drove me crazy, but not in the jealously type way. I felt more like the used shoulder that had been cried on one to many times. The truth is his girlfriend is complete piece of redneck garbage. But as they say…love is blind. </div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;">Ladies, you need to face it. When you date a guy, you basically are dating everyone he dated before you. Do not go looking for things you cannot change. Dwelling on his past is unhealthy and will not do the relationship any good. You will probably kill it. What goes around comes around and chances are…the next girl he dates will likely be wondering about you.</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><br />
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<span style="font-size: xx-small;">What would you do if your first love suddenly walked back into your life? This is a question Alexa Moore finds herself asking the moment she comes face to face with her childhood sweetheart, nearly fifteen years after his mysterious disappearance.<br />
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In this coming of age novel, it is the summer of 1992. Carter Storm is a precocious thirteen-year-old child actor awaiting his big break in the entertainment industry. Alexa Moore is just a regular teenager, seeking acceptance from her peers. With heartbreak and humor, these two friends expose a world of secrets and learn to survive in the face of life’s contradictions and tragedies. When Carter’s dark life suddenly unveils before Alexa’s eyes, she witnesses her best friend beaten down mercilessly by his stage mother’s antics, but Alexa’s strong will and determination helps Carter pull through his darkest hours. The two are bonded by a love that only deepens as they grow. However, Carter’s mother will do everything she can to keep them apart, so that her prodigy is not distracted. As a result, the two are forced to keep their childhood romance hidden from prying eyes. When Alex discovers Carter’s family packed up and gone without so much as a chance for goodbyes, her world shatters.<br />
Over a decade later, Carter Storm resurfaces as a Grammy award winner, with a new name, a new life, and an entourage of screaming girls and paparazzi following him everywhere he goes. When Alexa randomly comes face to face with Carter Storm, the encounter sets off a string of events that will have her torn between the man she loves and the man she once loved. How far will she go when the man from her past suddenly walks into her future?</span><span style="font-size: 130%;"><br />
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It’s been two months since I last wrote a blog entry, but there is a reason for this. Many of you do not know that Ms. Edlund101 has been through a lot of trauma in these last past weeks. As you can see, the last entry I wrote was on September 27<sup>th</sup>. I was even prepared to write another blog entry the next day, but then a life altering event turned my world upside down. <br />
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</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;">The evening of September 27<sup>th</sup> I went on a date with a guy I thought I liked. When I got home, I checked my cell phone and I saw that I had several missed calls from my mom and aunt. Automatically I think, “Oh no, what now.” I called my aunt back and she informed me that my dad collapsed at home and had been rushed to the ER. I didn’t think it was much more then that flu or some other virus. The urgency of this situation really didn’t faze me. I told my aunt I had to work in the morning and I would have to ask my boss if I could leave early the next day. At work the following day, I got a phone from my mom and she made it imperative that everyone in the family needed to be at the hospital as a family. That morning my Dad had a blood transfusion and the doctors were going to tell us exactly what type of sickness he was dealing with after he had a series of tests done: MRI, and a liver biopsy, etc. I ended up leaving work, knowing that the family was now in a state of emergency. That afternoon I got to the hospital in Murrieta and of course, we sat around all day waiting for answers. This was just the first of taste of what these so-called “doctors” did to leave a bad taste in my mouth. No sense of urgency what so ever. The nurse came in and said, “Oh the doctor will be talking with you tonight, I just don’t know what time.” Then she came back in at about 10pm after we’d been waiting anxiously all day and announced, “Oh the doctor said he’s not coming in tonight, he’ll be meeting with you tomorrow morning.” Are you freaking kidding me? Come to find out no one will know any results of lab for the liver biopsy for a few days. I ended up staying at my parent’s house in the meantime. When we got the results of the liver biopsy, that’s when all shit hit the fan. Now, I’m not savvy in all the doc talk, but I think it was the oncologist that informed us that my Dad had stage four melanoma cancer of the liver. Multiple tumors had formed on his liver and spine. And this would explain why my Dad was having so much pain in his back. Of course my Dad would undergo treatment to find out if they could shrink the tumors since they said it was at its last stage and they didn’t know how much could be done. When I think back to this today, a vivid image flashes in my mind---how my dad looked the moment he found out he had cancer. He just gazed out the hospital room window with this distraught and shocked expression upon his face. I believe he was thinking, “Is this really happening to ME?” </div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;">At the end of the week they released him from the hospital. But he would go back to the hospital regularly for treatment and blood transfusions until they could get him into to the clinical trials at UCLA. He had to leave the hospital using a cane due to the fact that he was having trouble walking. After that I didn’t see my dad for a week. When I came back to my parent’s house in Temecula and saw my Dad, it was like a shock to the system. He had lost a good amount of weight. The t-shirt he wore regularly around the house for years was like a tent on him. He looked comparably to an eighty-year old man. And now my Dad was longer using a cane---he had downgraded to a walker. My heart just broke. I sensed it was the beginning of the end. This once strong man was now incredibly weak and at the mercy of others. I can’t even begin to explain the pain that rips through me knowing he had to sleep in the downstairs bedroom because he was no longer able to walk upstairs. And not only that, but the excruciating pain he was in. </div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"> Another week went by. I came for another visit only to find out that the doctors were basically letting him sit there and rot while they took their sweet time getting back to us with what kind of treatment and hospital he would be going too. And you want to know why? These moronic pieces of shit doctors had lost my dad’s liver biopsy, so until they could find it; my dad was at their mercy. And they wouldn’t take another sample unless my parents paid for it. UNFUCKINGBELIEABLE. And I call tell you right now you those two weeks were crucial for his survival. We all know how fast cancer spreads. Anyway, the last week I saw him at home was the weekend of October 24<sup>th</sup>. He was at the point where he couldn’t even use a walker---the muscle mass in his legs were gone. He was now resorting to a wheelchair. To make matters more disheartening, he wanted to be with my mom upstairs, and it was too much trouble to get him up and downstairs with the wheelchair in tow. My mom decided to permanently keep him upstairs. So my Dad was confined to our movie theater room for the rest of his stay at the house. His day consisted of basically watching television and sleeping. The next time I would see my Dad would be when doctors finally released him to UCLA Santa Monica hospital. I got a phone call on November 1<sup>st</sup> with even more bad news. The tumors had spread to his brain, and he could no longer go into clinical trials because of this. I was in complete devastation. That same day, I planned on going to the gym to get my mind off things. But all I ended up doing was sitting in my car in the gym parking lot crying hysterically. I just couldn’t believe it was happening. I hated to believe that the end of coming. All I keep thinking about was, “Oh my god, I’m not going to have a dad anymore. This can’t be happening. I’m too young for this shit.” My brother told me a few weeks before, when he was in the hospital at Murrieta, that the doctor told my Dad that he had six months to live and he should get his affairs in order. My mom was not supposed to know this. She was on the verge on a nervous breakdown as it was. On November 3<sup>rd</sup> I went to visit my Dad at the hospital in <city w:st="on"><place w:st="on">L.A.</place></city> He seemed in good spirits and very hopeful that the treatments of radiation and chemo were going to work. Well the day I came to visit him they stopped the chemo. His white blood cells were really low and he got an infection of some sort. To all of our dismay, the doctors didn’t plan to start it up again. But they would continue to do the radiation. The night I left the hospital, my dad was his usual grumpy self. It amazed me that the disease had not affected his personality. I called my dad for the next several days. I even said happy birthday to him. His birthday was on the 8<sup>th</sup> of November and he was able to say happy birthday to me…mine was on the 10<sup>th</sup>. (Yeah happy fricking birthday) I wasn’t able to go see him as much as I liked. I had to work and then I got really sick that next whole week. The hospital obviously didn’t want sick people in the building, so I missed a whole week with my dad. And let me tell you….in a whole week I’d never seen someone ill decline as fast as he did. I finally went back to the hospital on November 18<sup>th</sup>. What I saw when I walked into the hospital room is something I will never be able to get out of my mind. There was my dad, only the shell of the person who he used to be, laying on the bed, his eyes rolling back into his head and he was moaning in pain. I broke down outside the hospital room. When I finally was able to pull it together, I walked back into the room where the doctors were gathered around my father. My mother was also at his bedside. The doctors stated that there is nothing more they could do but make him comfortable. The melanoma was all throughout his bone marrow and so they would cease future treatments and instead up the morphine. Worst of all, the brain tumors had gotten bigger. The radiation had done nothing. Basically the doctors told us that his body was shutting down. My dad was still coherent at the time, and I knew he could hear everything they were saying. When I walked in the room that day he saw me and mumbled my name. Even when his sister showed up, my Dad knew she was there and he even said her name. That day we also snuck my miniature poodle into see my Dad. He adored and loved my dog so much. I could tell he was so happy to see him. But of course we got bitched at by the nurses and doctors, so my brother had to take the dog home. I stayed over night at the hospital with my mom that day. At 6:00am on November 19<sup>th,</sup> I woke up to the sound of my dad breathing irregularly. It kind of startled me, so I got up out of my makeshift bed and went to check up on him. I talked to him and put my head on his chest, told him that I loved him. Amazingly, he lifted his arm and put his hand on my arm, which was strewn across his chest. He did his several times. I kept telling him, “I love you, Daddy….I love you, Daddy.” Then I went back to my makeshift bed. At 8:00, I woke up again. My Mom was knocked out by choice. She had taken a sleeping pill, hours before hand. At this time a nurse came into the room wheeling a vital machine (sorry I’m not technical in the medical department, so I don’t know the exact name) she said was going to take his vitals. After a moment, the nurse looked at the machine rather oddly and then left the room. She came back with about six other doctors who gathered around my dad’s bed as though they were in a medical emergency on some television show. I asked what was going on and a lady doctor came over to me and gently said, “Honey your dad’s body is shutting down. He’s getting ready to go. We don’t know when but it could be hours, or moments. We just don’t know yet.” I cried heavily and went to my dad’s beside. Just hours before there was still some life left in him, and now he was completely incoherent. My mom finally awoke and lay beside him, telling him how much she loved him. And I did too. The nurse told me to tell my dad that it was okay to go---we would be okay. Then I watched my father, the person I’d known almost 30 years, take his final breath, like a fish out of water, and leave this world. It was 9:00am on November 19<sup>th</sup>. He was 60 years-old. The cancer took his life in only 1 month and three weeks.</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="border-bottom: medium none; border-left: medium none; border-right: medium none; border-top: medium none; margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><br />
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</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;">A few years ago I would have never dreamed of believing in astrology. In fact, I didn't know much about it and I didn't care too. I had read horoscopes in the past and they were pure bullshit. Yeah, right like anyone could predict my day, what a crock. Then cue in my last roommate---a totally dead beat mom, and not to mention a f*ked up loser. Before her melt down, she had a very kind and spiritual side to her. During her short duration of living with me, she began to fill me in on astrological signs. Now, I’m Scorpio so I know my sign down to a tee. Everything about me/Scorpio is true to form. Plus, my father is Scorpio and he fits the description like no other---but that’s a whole another Oprah. My eye-opener about signs took place about seven months ago when I began dating someone I thought had potential. My roommate and I got to talking about him one day and she asked me what his sign was. I said he was a Cancer. And come to find out, so was she. She was quick to fill me in on the mysteriousness of a Cancer and all their traits. She described what sounded exactly like the guy I was dating. Ah yes, both of these people were troubled sensitive souls. (And I happen to have a soft spot for them.) Then my roommate revealed these ridiculous facts, like how most Cancers are typically thin. Hmm…really? So my wheels started turning on this one. I thought about all the Cancer’s I knew in my life----my sister (as thin as a rail) my then roommate (had the body of a ten-year-old boy) my co-worker (super skinny). I asked the guy I was dating about it and he said he used to be the thinnest guy in his class. The revelation took place when I was having a karaoke party that same year. It happened when this random girl showed up. She was very tall and slender; her figure kind of reminded me of my sister’s. The first thing that popped into my mind was, “Are you a Cancer?” and she said, “Yeah I am. How did you know?” Amazing. I had never met this girl in my life, but yet I was able to pick up on that? Could it be that that this astrological sign thing is actually true? Totally intrigued, I had to look up on the internet whom Scorpios are most compatible with and wouldn’t you know....Scorpio females are most compatible with Cancer males. This just spoke to me, and suddenly a lot of things in my life started to make sense. First of all, my grandfather, one of the greatest people I ever knew, was a Cancer. We got along like no other. And then there was the guy I was dating at the time--- we were so compatible, yet our lives were going in different directions. I was heartbroken that it didn’t work out. I'd never dated a Cancer until that point in time. And now I’ve convinced myself that I will end up with one. My immediate thought after all this was: is this what I’ve been doing wrong? Going out with the wrong signs? Oh I was going to find that answer out in the next few months. Flash forward to March. I had just moved in with a friend. Suddenly, every time I turn around another guy is hitting me up and wanting to going out. I'd never in life dated as much as I did before I moved. I'll blame it on the area I lived in. Nothing ever happened there, I never met anyone. Then I moved to a party city and life changed drastically. The first guy I dated while I was living here (we will call him Steve to protect that innocent) was a Gemini. I'd never been out with a Gemini, so I knew nothing about them. He’d recently moved back to the area and wanted to take me on a date. So I said what the hell, I'll go. We met up and he seemed totally cool....until he opened his mouth. For the life of me, this guy would not shut-up. He'd go on and on about the most dull and irrelevant things. It got to the point where I just wanted to shoot myself. I mean he was nice, but he just bored me to death with all his blabbing. Sometimes he would come over and talk his ass off and end up staying until the very wee hours of the morning. Maybe if he had talked about something interesting I would have felt differently. So anyway, I went home that night and looked up the Gemini sign. I almost died when I read, “A Scorpio thinks of a Gemini as a talking parrot and finds this annoying.” Omg, it was dead on…. “Gemini’s are also flighty in behavior and child like. They also tend to look very youthful.” I thought of my uncle who's a Gemini---he looks really young for his age and he's also a flighty bastard. Interestingly enough, this guy I was dating did not look his age either. He was thirty-three in the body of a twenty-year-old. Ah yes, Gemini pegged. His sissy la la side came out on the second date when a wasp flew over his head and he screamed like a little girl. Third date, I found out he played with Legos. It wasn't long after the fourth date that his flighty behavior took affect. He emailed me one day stating that he thought he wanted to date again (he had broken up with his girlfriend three months prior) but he didn't think he was ready to be in a relationship, but he really liked me. He just wasn’t ready. Thank God because I was not down with a thirty-three-year-old man playing with Legos. Thanks! Then shortly after this guy, along came Paul--- another Gemini. Yes, these Gemini's are attracted to me like flies on shit. So I go out with Paul and this guy is the typical Gemini asshole if there ever was one. It was unbelievable what a douche this guy was. After him, I would never date a Gemini again. Been there done that--- Gemini's are out. A month later I went out with another guy named, John who was a Leo. I know all about Leo's. My very first boyfriend was a Leo: Controlling, arrogant, and it's usually their way or the highway. And yes, John fit the description of a Leo; total douche. I could not deal with it. Okay, now I had to due away with the Leo's. Let it be known that my first boyfriend made me miserable and now I understood why. </div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;">Yes, I know many people say they do not believe in astrological bullshit and to each their down. But sadly, it's sort of like a religion to me now. And I can't force anyone to believe the way I believe. Certain things pertaining to astrology in the past year have made me look at life in a different way. Now, every time I meet a guy I automatically ask his birth date. I’m not going to judge a book by its cover…but when a man is a Gemini or Leo—please stay away from me. Why date one when I know it’s going to be waste of my time? Not to mention, heartache. We can try to be friends, but we will never date. Thankfully, I still have 10 other signs left. I’ll stick with those. So do I believe we should you make sure your partner's astrological sign is compatible with yours before committing? It varies. I wouldn't say you should focus your whole life around it. Just because your sign says you are compatible with a Libra doesn’t mean you should only date Libras. Many people who believe in astrology actually don't end up with their matches. Just like my blog, astrology should be a guideline. You don't have to follow it to a tee. So here are some guidelines in the world of astrological signs for the ladies out there.</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><br />
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</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;">Capricorn is most compatible with Taurus, Virgo, Scorpio, Capricorn and Pisces, and is least compatible with Gemini, Aries, Cancer, Leo, Libra, Sagittarius and Aquarius. </div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><br />
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</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><u>Aquarius: 1/20-2/18</u></b></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;">The best match for an Aquarius woman is a Gemini man. Perfectly made for each other...soul mates. Sexual attraction with them is likely to be intense, as Aquarius finds Gemini to be very attractive physically. The Gemini boy and Aquarius girl combination is excellent because you really appreciate the most interesting qualities in each other. You are both intelligent, insightful people and you will delight in the amazing conversations that you have together. You also share each other’s taste for variety and new experiences, so you’ll have a lot of fun together. Your physical chemistry is strong and romance for both of you is more creative and fun with each other than with most other signs. You will have the best of both worlds in this relationship, because you will be both great friends and great romantic partners.</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><u>Pisces: 2/19-3/20</u></b></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;">A Scorpio or Taurus man is the best. Scorpio men love to take control over sweet Pisces woman; Taurus men are possessive too - but more home-loving and sentimental than Scorpio men. </div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><u>Aries: 3/21-4/19</u></b></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;">Most compatible with Leo, Sagittarius</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;">Can be good with Taurus, Gemini, Aquarius, and Pisces</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;">A 50-50 chance with Virgo, Scorpio</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;">Doubtful with Cancer, Libra, Capricorn, Aries </div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><u>Taurus: 4/20-5/20</u></b></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;">A Leo or Aquarius. They will be confident enough to handle all of her personality flaws. </div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><br />
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</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><u>Gemini: 5/21-6/21</u></b></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;">For a Gemini, Aries, Leo, Libra, and Aquarius are your best choices, but your opposite is Sagittarius. </div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;">Now whoever said Virgo makes the best match should be given a few stern words since Virgos, as well as Pisces, are the WORST matches for a Gemini.</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><u>Cancer: 6/22-7/22</u></b></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;">They say that your best matches are those of your element. (Pisces, Cancer, & Scorpio) </div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><u>Leo: 7/23-8/22</u></b></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;">If you want a truly accurate answer, you'll have to look at several placements in your chart....your Moon, you Venus, your Mars, 7th house, 5th house, and Juno.</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;">A cursory answer would be, another Fire sign would work well for you. Another Leo, a Sag, or an Aries. Also, Leo gets on with Libra pretty well. </div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><u>Virgo: 8/23-9/22</u></b></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;">If you are looking for a love partner or match, then the most likely to be paired up with Virgo women are Taurus men. </div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><u>Libra: 9/23-10/22</u></b></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;">By sun signs as you are asking, Sagittarius, Aquarius, and Gemini </div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><u>Scorpio: 10/23-11/21</u></b></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;">The best match for Scorpio is Capricorn. Cancer, Pisces, Virgo are also good matches. </div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><u>Sagittarius: 11/22-12/21</u></b></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;">Fearless Aries' love of adventure suits Sagittarius to at T! The ram's natural leadership qualities present no problems for Sags; the archer doesn't mind following as long as the road is leading somewhere. </div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;">Both of these signs are repelled by rules and share an intense love of freedom. While Aries can be a bit impulsive and quick-tempered, Sagittarius brings a level of responsibility and sound judgment to the pairing that helps keep things on an even keel. </div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;">Being creatures of action, Leos pair up well with adventurous Sagittarians. This coupling loves to travel together and also shares great enthusiasm for the arts. While Leos tend to knock heads with Taureans and wear out even the most passionate Scorpios, Sagittarians seems to provide just enough grounding to keep the relationship on track. And of course, Sagittarius has an insatiable love to know just what Leo will come up with next! </div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><br />
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In this coming of age novel, it is the summer of 1992. Carter Storm is a precocious thirteen-year-old child actor awaiting his big break in the entertainment industry. Alexa Moore is just a regular teenager, seeking acceptance from her peers. With heartbreak and humor, these two friends expose a world of secrets and learn to survive in the face of life’s contradictions and tragedies. When Carter’s dark life suddenly unveils before Alexa’s eyes, she witnesses her best friend beaten down mercilessly by his stage mother’s antics, but Alexa’s strong will and determination helps Carter pull through his darkest hours. The two are bonded by a love that only deepens as they grow. However, Carter’s mother will do everything she can to keep them apart, so that her prodigy is not distracted. As a result, the two are forced to keep their childhood romance hidden from prying eyes. When Alex discovers Carter’s family packed up and gone without so much as a chance for goodbyes, her world shatters.<br />
Over a decade later, Carter Storm resurfaces as a Grammy award winner, with a new name, a new life, and an entourage of screaming girls and paparazzi following him everywhere he goes. When Alexa randomly comes face to face with Carter Storm, the encounter sets off a string of events that will have her torn between the man she loves and the man she once loved. How far will she go when the man from her past suddenly walks into her future?</span><span style="font-size: 130%;"><br />
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</div>Edlundhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15784498556795051990noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8057211645422554017.post-76418369805548238682010-09-17T13:07:00.000-07:002011-09-17T11:50:52.341-07:00Why women fall in love with fictional characters<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhq6I2CuYYGjx4RzHBGCrIc3IolUiTlRkAkZutds1-7pBZJR7wnxYVBL4BA1Y6XIWmIp19XrExyb7sfO5FU3dLbcDMeRS5Slq7RR_pV4y0uQo28ScfQ-pEZdE9792KZ0agehFpEhyphenhyphenF-VFbh/s1600/sodumb.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhq6I2CuYYGjx4RzHBGCrIc3IolUiTlRkAkZutds1-7pBZJR7wnxYVBL4BA1Y6XIWmIp19XrExyb7sfO5FU3dLbcDMeRS5Slq7RR_pV4y0uQo28ScfQ-pEZdE9792KZ0agehFpEhyphenhyphenF-VFbh/s320/sodumb.jpg" /></a></div><div style="margin-bottom: 0in;"><br />
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</div><div style="margin-bottom: 0in;"><span lang="en">I was seven years old when I watched my first soap opera. I remember sitting with my mother in front of the television eating a sandwich, engrossed in, “All My Children.” The character I most remember was Erica Crane. She was so glamorous. And I remember thinking to myself, “Are all women suppose to look and be this captivating?” Flash forward ten years. At this time I was addicted to another soap opera. I would come home everyday after work and immerse myself in these worthless storylines. And the thing that got to me was all the gorgeous rippled men they always seemed to cast. Somehow I got it in my mind that all my boyfriends should look like one of these guys. So I sought out to find one. I would not settle until I got what I wanted. Well, if I had continued to think this way today, I would be a very lonely girl.</span></div><div lang="en" style="margin-bottom: 0in;"><br />
</div><div style="margin-bottom: 0in;"><span lang="en">First of all, women have a preconceived notion of what their future husbands/boyfriends should look like because of these Hollywood and television fairy tales. In fact, the entertainment industry has kind of brain washed women into believing they have a chance of finding their Brad Pitts. Let me tell you, finding a Brad Pitt (if that’s your type. I’m rather partial to Hugh Jackman myself) is like trying to find a needle in a haystack. And it’s not only the looks factor that we are misguided on. Women get sucked into believing that these fictional characters are true to form, as though they are going to meet prince charming and everything is going to be rainbows and butterflies…a real Hollywood romance. Uh….wrong! Take for example the Twilight movies. Almost every woman I know has a thing for Edward and I don’t know why because I find him ugly as hell, but that’s just my opinion. Anyway, women wish he were real. After this movie came out I logged onto Facebook and saw someone created group called, “Now that I’ve seen Twilight I have high expectations of men.” What? Are you kidding me? Or I heard that when the movie, Avatar, came out people were depressed and suicidal because they wanted to live in their world. Seriously? Get a life people! Let’s be real here. Most of the time the really attractive men are a bunch of a-holes and players, just because they know how good looking they are. Not only that, but most of these guys don’t seem to have a lot going on in their head. Is that what a woman really wants? A mannequin? If so she is in for a rude awakening. Although that seems to be what a man wants from a woman---the super hot brain dead bimbo. But that’s because it’s easier for them to get laid when she’s as dumb as a box of rocks. I’ve come to learn that average looking men are the ones who treat you the best. Now how often do they show that in movies? Besides, dating a mega attractive man is pretty stressful. Every where you go women will be eying your man. And then when you see him looking back you feel completely self conscious like you aren’t good enough for him. Why would you want that? I live in Orange County and people automatically think that because I live in the OC that I could come from the land of the beautiful. Eh…wrong again. Truth be told, I do not see many attractive men around here. Sure, there are a ton of attractive women, but rarely do any of the men in Orange County catch my attention. And I’m not talking about them having to be perfect…but rarely do I even see half decent. Then just the other day I was sitting at Coffee Bean and I look across from me and see a young guy with the most perfect face---nearly model </span><title></title><style type="text/css">
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</div><div style="margin-bottom: 0in;"><span lang="en">Most women whom center their life around fictional characters are usually unhappy with themselves and their own lives. Obviously, reality is not something they want to endure. This fantasy of meeting the nearly perfect man they saw on television the night before sounds better than real life. First of all, if a woman is not happy with herself, she should not be focusing on trying to find Mr. Perfect or any man for that matter. They need to love thy self before they can love anyone else. This may sound cliché, but it’s the God’s honest truth. </span> </div><div lang="en" style="margin-bottom: 0in;"><br />
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<span style="font-size: xx-small;">What would you do if your first love suddenly walked back into your life? This is a question Alexa Moore finds herself asking the moment she comes face to face with her childhood sweetheart, nearly fifteen years after his mysterious disappearance.<br />
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In this coming of age novel, it is the summer of 1992. Carter Storm is a precocious thirteen-year-old child actor awaiting his big break in the entertainment industry. Alexa Moore is just a regular teenager, seeking acceptance from her peers. With heartbreak and humor, these two friends expose a world of secrets and learn to survive in the face of life’s contradictions and tragedies. When Carter’s dark life suddenly unveils before Alexa’s eyes, she witnesses her best friend beaten down mercilessly by his stage mother’s antics, but Alexa’s strong will and determination helps Carter pull through his darkest hours. The two are bonded by a love that only deepens as they grow. However, Carter’s mother will do everything she can to keep them apart, so that her prodigy is not distracted. As a result, the two are forced to keep their childhood romance hidden from prying eyes. When Alex discovers Carter’s family packed up and gone without so much as a chance for goodbyes, her world shatters.<br />
Over a decade later, Carter Storm resurfaces as a Grammy award winner, with a new name, a new life, and an entourage of screaming girls and paparazzi following him everywhere he goes. When Alexa randomly comes face to face with Carter Storm, the encounter sets off a string of events that will have her torn between the man she loves and the man she once loved. How far will she go when the man from her past suddenly walks into her future?</span><span style="font-size: 130%;"><br />
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</div></div>Edlundhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15784498556795051990noreply@blogger.com7tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8057211645422554017.post-55289395061871583592010-09-02T08:10:00.000-07:002011-09-17T11:49:39.612-07:00Ask The Professor<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjSaPYpuC_ByUe_6TY074qady8m1UbEJemsoaTVaQ3pDBJyoNQoEtxj2WFzW98s-Q0imPavR8aFtsr70dFR1z0wrQEZr5HzwZZbRsFHMskQYQd5ePHcDnwCjePvUO54I0ekANp7lzWqbepx/s1600/professoredlund.JPG"><img alt="" border="0" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5512334295728477986" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjSaPYpuC_ByUe_6TY074qady8m1UbEJemsoaTVaQ3pDBJyoNQoEtxj2WFzW98s-Q0imPavR8aFtsr70dFR1z0wrQEZr5HzwZZbRsFHMskQYQd5ePHcDnwCjePvUO54I0ekANp7lzWqbepx/s320/professoredlund.JPG" style="cursor: hand; float: left; height: 290px; margin: 0px 10px 10px 0px; width: 285px;" /></a><br />
<div>So starting this Thursday, every Thursday will be “Ask Professor Edlund” day where I will take emails about your questions or dilemma and answer them on my blog, since a lot of you losers out there don’t know what the hell you are doing. Yes, I am here to help you out with the obvious. And reiterate the Edlund 101 Rules. So let’s get to it, shall we?<br />
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<i>Can you attempt my class.....</i><br />
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Hey Professor Edlund, your blog interests me. I have a question. At what stage in dating (after how long) would I be able to invite a lady for a weekend overnight trip? Andy- Austin, Texas</b><br />
Andy,<br />
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First of all, please tell me that this woman is your girlfriend and second, if you are thinking about taking her on a trip like this she better be putting out. We no longer live in a society where we go on fancy vacations with our boyfriends and get separate rooms. That’s ludicrous. If she thinks she’s going to get away with that then she should not be going on any over night trips with you in the first place. Of course there are exceptions to the rule, like if you two are *ahem* highly religious church goers. I know plenty of Moron people who travel together and have separate rooms. But if that’s not the case, you best be getting laid before the trip or the night of. When men spend large amounts of money on a woman for a fancy vacations or trips they expect certain things---let’s just say it’s sort of like a return on their investment. I know, I hate to admit it, but it’s the sad truth. Most importantly, remember I only condone this type of behavior if you are in a serious relationship.<br />
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<b>Professor Edlund 101, I was wondering how long in dating (months) before a guy knows if the girl is a keeper or just for fun? – Anonymous – Jacksonville, Florida</b><br />
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If a girl follows the Edlund 101 rules, a guy will know she’s a keeper. But seriously, usually a man can tell within the first five minutes of meeting a woman if she is a keeper…meaning if he’s sexually attracted or not. First his penis has to go “Schwiiiing” and then that little pea brain of his will actually start to think logically. I know that when I’m a date it’s within the first TEN minutes that I discover if I’ll ever want to date the dude again. But like I’ve said before, there are warning signs that should be able to tell you if she’s just for fun or to be taken seriously. Say for instance if she fools around or sleeps with you on the first date, she’s out indefinitely. These types of women are nothing more than play things. A woman who has some class and doesn’t let a man walk all over her is a keeper.<br />
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<b>Hi there! If a woman has sex on the 4th date, do most guys think she is easy? – Anonymous</b><br />
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Unless she is in a monogamous relationship by the fourth date…then yes, most guys should think she’s easy. Edlund 101 followers do not have sex unless we are in a committed monogamous relationship. Period. So it really doesn’t matter if it’s the first date or the tenth.<br />
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<b>Professor, in your opinion, discuss how important physical attractiveness is when meeting or dating a potential long-term partner? Lynn- Portland, OR</b><br />
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Lynn,<br />
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When I was younger I thought I had a type. I was only going to date the dark, tall and handsome. Ha, that’s like trying to find a needle in a haystack. If I was a man I would have no problem finding someone in the looks department because there are so many better looking women than there are men, is that not true? Well, not too long ago I met someone who changed my whole perspective on “types.” I had usually gone for the preppy type…clean cut, thin, no tats, baby-faced and no facial hair. And this man I acquired feelings for was far from my type physically. But couldn’t help the strong physical attraction from the moment we met. Even though he wasn’t what anyone would consider good looking, I saw past his flaws. There was more to him then just his exterior and I think it was his spirit that made him shine. After him, my so-called “type” went to the wind. I started meeting other men and listening to my gut instinct. If there was any type of attraction, I would go on a date with him. I didn’t matter to me if he didn’t look like Hugh Jackman, in fact it didn’t matter to me what he looked liked as long there was some sort of physical attraction. If I can’t imagine myself waking up next to the person for the next fifty years, then he probably isn’t the guy for me. I think “type” is just some fantasy made up in our head. We’ve been brain washed by Hollywood and all these ridiculously good looking people we see in movies and soap operas. It taunts us into a false sense hope when the reality is that we will probably never end up with a Brad Pitt. And if we try to strive for only the Brad Pitts in the world then we are going to end up sad, lonely old women.<br />
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Tune in next week for another Edition of “Ask The Professor”. You can send your comments or questions to Edlund101@yahoo.com<br />
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In this coming of age novel, it is the summer of 1992. Carter Storm is a precocious thirteen-year-old child actor awaiting his big break in the entertainment industry. Alexa Moore is just a regular teenager, seeking acceptance from her peers. With heartbreak and humor, these two friends expose a world of secrets and learn to survive in the face of life’s contradictions and tragedies. When Carter’s dark life suddenly unveils before Alexa’s eyes, she witnesses her best friend beaten down mercilessly by his stage mother’s antics, but Alexa’s strong will and determination helps Carter pull through his darkest hours. The two are bonded by a love that only deepens as they grow. However, Carter’s mother will do everything she can to keep them apart, so that her prodigy is not distracted. As a result, the two are forced to keep their childhood romance hidden from prying eyes. When Alex discovers Carter’s family packed up and gone without so much as a chance for goodbyes, her world shatters.<br />
Over a decade later, Carter Storm resurfaces as a Grammy award winner, with a new name, a new life, and an entourage of screaming girls and paparazzi following him everywhere he goes. When Alexa randomly comes face to face with Carter Storm, the encounter sets off a string of events that will have her torn between the man she loves and the man she once loved. How far will she go when the man from her past suddenly walks into her future?</span><span style="font-size: 130%;"><br />
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</div></div>Edlundhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15784498556795051990noreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8057211645422554017.post-58279326100570968482010-09-01T08:47:00.000-07:002011-09-17T11:48:57.126-07:00Being Complete As A Woman Without A Man<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgL5dHRZQUcJNWhiXoVbJl6aUqhyphenhyphenhDlQIfNtLjb-J-D-c1TrQz_7bCjf_iycjE8Qkamp8zZaUiNCOwXshPr7146k-BfIYtBCOal6TbNdQ4cDNXkWUTbF9EyQRnkVH0UqjmelcW3oc6QDy5z/s1600/manandwoman.jpg"><img alt="" border="0" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5511972573069398978" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgL5dHRZQUcJNWhiXoVbJl6aUqhyphenhyphenhDlQIfNtLjb-J-D-c1TrQz_7bCjf_iycjE8Qkamp8zZaUiNCOwXshPr7146k-BfIYtBCOal6TbNdQ4cDNXkWUTbF9EyQRnkVH0UqjmelcW3oc6QDy5z/s320/manandwoman.jpg" style="cursor: hand; float: right; height: 214px; margin: 0px 0px 10px 10px; width: 320px;" /></a><br />
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Being a single woman (by choice) I often wonder why so many other women feel that they cannot be complete without a man. I mean, is that that important? Shit, there’s so much more to life than having a boyfriend. And yet some women feel it’s so necessary that they will have a boyfriend even if they know the guy is totally wrong from them. I’ll admit that I was influenced at the tender age of eleven. Believe it or not, having a boyfriend was what every girl wanted at my age. As early as fifth grade, girls already had boyfriends. And I said to myself, “Damn it. I’m going to get one too!” And so I did. Of course it was nowhere near an adult relationship, but he turned out to be someone I would not be able to forget. And I guess he was the reason why I couldn’t wait to grow up and join the dating world. Ugh, how sorry I would be. Everything would just start spiraling downward. Soon enough I would go through a series of bad boyfriends and failed relationships. Thank God I eventually wised up at twenty-five and no longer allowed these losers to take control of my life. I’m not going to lie. It’s nice to feel loved by the opposite sex, but for me it’s nice to feel loved by the RIGHT guy. Not just some random dude because I feel lonely. Yeah right.<br />
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Over my lifetime I’ve come across numerous amounts of women whom are completely obsessed with dating and having boyfriends. It’s gotten to the point where it’s taken over their lives. They simple can’t function when they are single and it’s as though a man is like some sort of security blanket. Dating is no longer fun for them; it’s a necessity. They believe that if they don’t have a diamond ring on their finger by a certain age they will won’t be able to exist. Really now? Maybe it was that way back in the 50s, but not in this generation. And speaking of dysfunctional---two years ago, I had a friend who had a completely warped sense of reality, especially when it came to men. We got to talking and I asked her to tell me about her five-year goal plan. This is exactly what she said:<br />
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-Find a boyfriend (within the year)<br />
-Get engaged by age 29 (a year after we meet)<br />
-Get married by age 30 (at least a year after being engaged)<br />
-Get pregnant and have a kid by age 31 (a year after being married)<br />
-Have another kid (a year after)<br />
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All I could think of at that moment was, “Seriously?” No where on that list did I see anything substantial like--- get a degree, buy a house, etc etc…Everything was based on the need of finding a man. This was also the girl who told men on the first date about her life long plans and scared them away within the first hour of meeting. First of all, I wanted to tell this bitch that nothing in life goes according to plan. We all wish it could, but nothing ever goes the way we want. If that were true then I would have both my novels published, be married to some super hot sexy dude and be rolling in dough. Sorry, only in the dream world, honey.<br />
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What sickens me even more are the girls whom get married extremely young. Please, please, please can someone advise on me why women throw their lives away like this? If they are so in love why can’t they just hold off until they are at least twenty-five? We all know what happens to the ones who get married under twenty….it never lasts. Such a waste if you ask me. Seriously, I think there should be a law prohibiting morons under the age of twenty-five from marrying.<br />
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You see, I have ton of goals that I want to accomplish before I get into all this mumbo jumbo. I’m a fiction writer and I plan on getting my novels published and making a name for myself. For me its career, and then maybe marriage. I know from first hand experience that when I’m trying to focus on my goals and a man comes into the picture….I get sidetracked. I can’t let that happen anymore. Nothing good comes from it and it’s just a complete waste of my time.<br />
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But what I want to know is: What is so wrong with the single life? Is having the freedom to do what you want such a bad thing? Why do women insist on being tied down by their controlling boyfriends? Do women get off on that type of shit? Maybe so. Of course, no one wants to be single and lonely forever. But sometimes it’s nice to sit back, smell the roses and not get involved in the relationship drama. There is a time and place for everything. Being in a relationship should not be anyone’s number one goal in life. Ladies, it’s not that end of the world if you are single for awhile.<br />
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As I’ve said before, this day in age we women cannot depend on a man for anything. We must be self sufficient; make our own money, hold down a job, be totally independent. We never know what might happen down the road after we get married or end up in a serious relationship where we think our men will supposedly take care of us forever. Nothing is ever set in stone and we need to prepare ourselves for the inevitable. It’s sad, but that’s the world we live in today—it’s every man/woman for themselves.<br />
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Class dismissed.<br />
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<span style="font-size: xx-small;">What would you do if your first love suddenly walked back into your life? This is a question Alexa Moore finds herself asking the moment she comes face to face with her childhood sweetheart, nearly fifteen years after his mysterious disappearance.<br />
<br />
In this coming of age novel, it is the summer of 1992. Carter Storm is a precocious thirteen-year-old child actor awaiting his big break in the entertainment industry. Alexa Moore is just a regular teenager, seeking acceptance from her peers. With heartbreak and humor, these two friends expose a world of secrets and learn to survive in the face of life’s contradictions and tragedies. When Carter’s dark life suddenly unveils before Alexa’s eyes, she witnesses her best friend beaten down mercilessly by his stage mother’s antics, but Alexa’s strong will and determination helps Carter pull through his darkest hours. The two are bonded by a love that only deepens as they grow. However, Carter’s mother will do everything she can to keep them apart, so that her prodigy is not distracted. As a result, the two are forced to keep their childhood romance hidden from prying eyes. When Alex discovers Carter’s family packed up and gone without so much as a chance for goodbyes, her world shatters.<br />
Over a decade later, Carter Storm resurfaces as a Grammy award winner, with a new name, a new life, and an entourage of screaming girls and paparazzi following him everywhere he goes. When Alexa randomly comes face to face with Carter Storm, the encounter sets off a string of events that will have her torn between the man she loves and the man she once loved. How far will she go when the man from her past suddenly walks into her future?</span><span style="font-size: 130%;"><br />
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Purchase for ebook at Amazon or Barnes and Noble:<br />
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</div>Edlundhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15784498556795051990noreply@blogger.com7tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8057211645422554017.post-4707311587307895602010-08-30T08:56:00.001-07:002011-09-17T11:45:55.070-07:00Reasons To Avoid Overly Flirtatious Men<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj0H-RcZFLg0Csq0ekLDxEw0k6swjTY-IHHOJUaPffSBet-Eu8Au8XiC53DCaKpsTLQG-bY_Oj2zZuFISQGUBn_ShcLnHDLbYKJ7SahLr7jRT7FzWi6BxifD9hyDhWI0PAl2E2dHZKAe8gL/s1600/flirty.bmp"><img alt="" border="0" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5511232734216228786" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj0H-RcZFLg0Csq0ekLDxEw0k6swjTY-IHHOJUaPffSBet-Eu8Au8XiC53DCaKpsTLQG-bY_Oj2zZuFISQGUBn_ShcLnHDLbYKJ7SahLr7jRT7FzWi6BxifD9hyDhWI0PAl2E2dHZKAe8gL/s320/flirty.bmp" style="cursor: hand; float: right; height: 242px; margin: 0px 0px 10px 10px; width: 320px;" /></a><br />
It's Monday and time for another edition of Edlund 101.<br />
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Class is now in session.....<br />
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Every woman will meet one once in her lifetime----that one charmer who will sweep her off her feet and make her feel like she’s the only woman in the world. Ah, then she discovers not long after that he is flirty and sweet with every woman he meets. And the best part is that he acts like it’s no big deal. Don’t feel so special anymore do you? You try to tell yourself that he is just a nice guy and that’s just his personality. Girl, if you keep telling yourself this--- dating Mr. Flirty could have some serious consequences.<br />
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My friend Michelle knew exactly what she was getting into with the last guy she dated. He was adored by numerous amounts of women and he was often talked about as, “so sweet and charming.” Everywhere he went, women draped themselves all over him. So when she started dating him…. shit hit the fan---when these women found out, that is. They would go parties and some of the women whom adored him happened to be there. These women would dog her, whisper behind her back, call him and make up stories about something he did at a party when he wasn’t there. Oh yes, we all know how vicious females can be when we step into their territory. Now, before they started dating regularly this man didn’t give a shit about what these other women thought. And he would make Michelle the center of attention whenever they were in groups with other people. But once they started seeing each other on a regular basis, he kind of wanted to keep it on the down low. That’s when things started to change. Reason being, he thought he “had” her. Now she would show up at parties and he would act like they were just friends. And she watched him flirt like it was no big deal. She even caught him sneaking away at parties with other women. God only knows what was going on then. But of course, she gave him the benefit of the doubt. The thing is, when they were alone together he would revert back into that sweet guy. He was always into her and never flirted with anyone when we were alone together. Unfortunately, in the end she found out he had an ego the size of Texas----sorry he couldn’t have his cake and eat it too. DTB!<br />
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And here’s another classic case. I went out with a guy who seemed to be all right by my standards. After a couple dates everything seemed to be going fine. Then I guess he got comfortable with me or something and I was about to see his true colors. One night we went to a restaurant called, The Yard House, for a quick bite and a drink. We happened to get a cute female server. She wasn’t a super model or anything, but she was definitely attractive, I can’t deny that. But apparently this guy thought she was the hottest thing in Orange County. So he decides to blatantly flirt with her and none the less, right in front of me. When she walked away after bringing out our appetizer, I observed him looking around for her like it was nothing and I was thinking, “Are you kidding me right now?” So I asked him, “So do you think she’s cute?” At that point I didn’t care what his answer was because I already made up my mind that I was never going to see this guy again. But he said to me, “No, I’m not a douche like that.” Yeah right. “Maybe you should get her number.” And he just thought that comment was hilarious. So did that stop him from continuing to scope out that server every time she came by? Nope. At the end of the night I said to him again, “Really, I think you like her. You should get her number.” And once again, he just laughed.” I knew what he was thinking. What a douche.<br />
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What it really comes down to is that the overly flirtatious men are really nothing but trouble. You can’t trust them as far as you can throw them. There is nothing wrong with your man being kind and sweet to his/your female friends, but if he’s taking it to the extreme, you need to watch for the red flags. One thing is for sure---usually these types of men turn out to be womanizers. Yeah, it may seem cute at first that your man gets along with everyone so well, but eventually it gets really old. It gets the point where you can’t recognize if he is just being friendly, or just <i>being friendly</i>, if you know what I mean. Avoid these types of men at all costs. It’s not worth looking over your shoulder every five minutes wondering what he’s up to next.<br />
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In this coming of age novel, it is the summer of 1992. Carter Storm is a precocious thirteen-year-old child actor awaiting his big break in the entertainment industry. Alexa Moore is just a regular teenager, seeking acceptance from her peers. With heartbreak and humor, these two friends expose a world of secrets and learn to survive in the face of life’s contradictions and tragedies. When Carter’s dark life suddenly unveils before Alexa’s eyes, she witnesses her best friend beaten down mercilessly by his stage mother’s antics, but Alexa’s strong will and determination helps Carter pull through his darkest hours. The two are bonded by a love that only deepens as they grow. However, Carter’s mother will do everything she can to keep them apart, so that her prodigy is not distracted. As a result, the two are forced to keep their childhood romance hidden from prying eyes. When Alex discovers Carter’s family packed up and gone without so much as a chance for goodbyes, her world shatters.<br />
Over a decade later, Carter Storm resurfaces as a Grammy award winner, with a new name, a new life, and an entourage of screaming girls and paparazzi following him everywhere he goes. When Alexa randomly comes face to face with Carter Storm, the encounter sets off a string of events that will have her torn between the man she loves and the man she once loved. How far will she go when the man from her past suddenly walks into her future?</span><span style="font-size: 130%;"><br />
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We all know that in order to have any successful relationship we must rely on one key element: Trust. Without this, we pretty much have nothing. And lets face it, most women don’t have the trust factor whether their man does right by them or not. I’ll admit that I’ve been guilty of prying and spying on several occasions. The first time it happened was in my first “real” relationship when I was twenty. My boyfriend had gone to take a shower and I was sitting in his bedroom. There I was minding my own business when I saw his journal peeping out from underneath his bed. Suddenly this evil switch went off in my brain. It was the moment of truth. Would I be gutsy enough to open that leather bound notebook or pretend like I never saw it? Might I mention that I had some slight reservations about my then boyfriend? I wasn’t exactly an old pro at the dating game at that time, but I had a lot of mixed feelings about him. Only later would I learn that my intuition would never again steer me wrong. Anyway, I felt that if I read that journal maybe I would gain some insight into what was going on in his mind---or maybe I was just looking for “things.” Whatever it was I had a bunch of conflicting feelings going on inside me at that moment. My eyes went from the bathroom to the journal, from the bathroom to the journal. I only had so much time to think about my actions. Finally, I made up my mind. I’d just open it and take a quick glance. I wasn’t hurting anyone right? He’d never have to know. So I got on the floor and opened it just a crack. What made it sort of easier was that it was already bookmarked to his last entry. Again, my eyes slide from the bathroom to the journal. My pulse was racing, I began to sweat. What if he came back the moment I started reading it? Nope, impossible, I told myself. I could still hear the water running from the shower. I called my attention back to the journal. My eyes scanned the page, searching for any type of incriminating evidence; maybe a girlfriend on the side? Or another date he’d been on? But instead I got the biggest surprise, “<i>Tomorrow is Jennifer’s birthday and I want to take her out</i>…” I immediately stopped reading. That was good enough for me. No more worries *whew* at least for the time being. Given the chance, I probably would have read more but at the same time I knew what I was doing was completely wrong.<br />
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All of us have had those moments of insecurity where we felt the need to snoop on our significant other. I think???? I guess the good news for the snoopers is that nobody can really get away with shady shit anymore. Unless you’ve been living under a rock, you know we live in an age of electronic paper trails. We can track anything from the cell phone calls to the text messages. But everything has its loop holes and let’s not forget the guys whom are <b>really</b> good at covering their tracks. Of course, there’s always someone out there who will slip up and get caught. For me personally, I believe that when you are dating someone you should both keep your private lives to yourself. Of course this changes when you are married, uh---somewhat. But I don’t believe you have a right to your partner’s passwords, emails or facebook account. That’s a sign of someone who is extremely insecure in the relationship. The bottom line is--- if you trust the person you are with it shouldn’t be an issue to begin with. You both should be trust worthy enough to do your own thing without having to be in each others business all the time.<br />
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Years ago, there was an incident when I had some suspicions about another guy I was dating. It really only had to do with his age. He told me he was thirty, but somehow I sensed he was much older. So I used my most valuable resource---the internet. It took me about three minutes to look him up on “People Search,” and find out everything I ever wanted to know about him. Ah, the good old information super highway. And what do you know? He was nowhere near thirty. Try like forty-two. Now would you call that invading his privacy or watching my back?<br />
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At the beginning of the year I dated a guy who I had absolutely no qualms about. He was honest to a fault by telling me all about his skeletons in the closet. Ah, but just when everything was fine and dandy, my boss convinced me to do a background check on him with this super high tech program that police officers use. All he needed was his first and last name and this program would tell me EVERYTHING about him—arrests, driving records and tickets, DUIs, prior marriages, who he was living with, court appearances, bankruptcies, you name it. And of course, my boss cajoled me into doing this. Sure enough, I found out everything (no arrests, thank God.) I even got a satellite view of his house. Need I say that I totally felt like shit after I did this? Now THIS to me was an invasion of privacy.<br />
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Then of course we have the other side of the situation where we women are attempted by the crooked men we date. My friend briefly dated someone who had many of the same female “acquaintances” that she did. So there they are in the middle of dinner and he gets a gaggle of text messages from these “acquaintances." Let me just say that she had her suspicions about him from day one and this totally confirmed it. While she was sitting next to him, her eyes slid over to the screen of his cell phone. Sure enough, he’s being summoned by a pack of needy females that she recognized and he’s sitting there trying to be all slick about it. Oh hell no. She DTB (Dumped that bastard/bitch) as fast as she could.<br />
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I have a no fail method to finding out if your man is doing shit with other women behind your back. When you are out to dinner somewhere and he gets up to go to the restroom---tell him you’ll watch his cell phone for him while he’s away. Yeah, see how he reacts to that. He’ll either get all defensive about it and say no it’s okay, he’s got this (warning sign number one) or he’ll leave the cell phone with you and lock it (warning sign number two). If he has nothing to hide, he’ll won’t even think twice about leaving the phone. He’ll just walk away and do what he’s got to do. It also kind of lets you in on how much he trusts you as well.<br />
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Finally, let’s not forget about all the women whom are paranoid as hell after being cheated on. It’s extremely hard for these types of women not to scrutinize every waking detail when they are with their man. And I really feel for bad them, I do. But sometimes you just have to let go and have faith. I believe that the women who’ve been cheated on develop some sort of sixth sense. If they sense that their man is doing something seedy behind their back, his probably is. The only thing they can do is try to ease their conscious by getting to the bottom of their suspicions. Once a woman has been cheated on, it’s always in the back of their mind, no matter what. Kind of like having a nasty scare that you can’t get rid of for the rest of your life.<br />
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When you get down to it, everyone is entitled to their privacy. As hard as it may be we need to respect our partners and set some boundaries. If you’re someone who can’t learn to accept this then it’s time for you to reconsider your relationship at hand. But I can tell you right now, when I get into a relationship with a man, he doesn’t get away with shit with me. And I don’t have to pry to know what’s going on….just call it my sixth sense. </div><div></div><div></div><br />
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<span style="font-size: xx-small;">What would you do if your first love suddenly walked back into your life? This is a question Alexa Moore finds herself asking the moment she comes face to face with her childhood sweetheart, nearly fifteen years after his mysterious disappearance.<br />
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In this coming of age novel, it is the summer of 1992. Carter Storm is a precocious thirteen-year-old child actor awaiting his big break in the entertainment industry. Alexa Moore is just a regular teenager, seeking acceptance from her peers. With heartbreak and humor, these two friends expose a world of secrets and learn to survive in the face of life’s contradictions and tragedies. When Carter’s dark life suddenly unveils before Alexa’s eyes, she witnesses her best friend beaten down mercilessly by his stage mother’s antics, but Alexa’s strong will and determination helps Carter pull through his darkest hours. The two are bonded by a love that only deepens as they grow. However, Carter’s mother will do everything she can to keep them apart, so that her prodigy is not distracted. As a result, the two are forced to keep their childhood romance hidden from prying eyes. When Alex discovers Carter’s family packed up and gone without so much as a chance for goodbyes, her world shatters.<br />
Over a decade later, Carter Storm resurfaces as a Grammy award winner, with a new name, a new life, and an entourage of screaming girls and paparazzi following him everywhere he goes. When Alexa randomly comes face to face with Carter Storm, the encounter sets off a string of events that will have her torn between the man she loves and the man she once loved. How far will she go when the man from her past suddenly walks into her future?</span><span style="font-size: 130%;"><br />
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</div>Edlundhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15784498556795051990noreply@blogger.com9tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8057211645422554017.post-4720227623420862582010-08-23T09:52:00.000-07:002011-09-17T11:36:21.593-07:00Welcome to Edlund 101...I am your professor.<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiE0Zua6oiqkpAS18ul86EzxTLCJdBLswYnOuEShe2MBPJ64l_7ff0im4dmUaXxsrlbAHnR7V4zjQ1wJS_tleQVizzYRho7hfJ5ror2pIE4NOKH7BikhVjV68j5Ue8ZBOxDEJ4bg88rKC6i/s1600/lovesucks.jpg"><img alt="" border="0" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5508649786200123762" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiE0Zua6oiqkpAS18ul86EzxTLCJdBLswYnOuEShe2MBPJ64l_7ff0im4dmUaXxsrlbAHnR7V4zjQ1wJS_tleQVizzYRho7hfJ5ror2pIE4NOKH7BikhVjV68j5Ue8ZBOxDEJ4bg88rKC6i/s320/lovesucks.jpg" style="cursor: hand; float: left; height: 241px; margin: 0px 10px 10px 0px; width: 320px;" /></a><br />
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Welcome to first blog entry of Edlund 101. First I want to start off by telling you why I created this blog. Call me crazy, but for years I was a fan of Tom Leykis on 97.1 FM. Sadly, the whole radio station was axed in February 2009---the highlight of my afternoon-- my form of entertainment….. stolen right from under me. Each day, I drove an hour home and this was my outlet to get me to stop thinking about the nasty freeway traffic. But let’s be clear on something. In no way do I follow the “Tom Leykis rules” of dating. As I said, he was purely entertainment and I got a kick out of every dumb ass caller he brought on the air. Sometimes you need a good laugh when you are sitting in traffic that’s comparable to a parking lot. Although, I have to admit that some of the things he said about women and men are DEAD ON. You see, Tom teaches men how to get tail for less money or no money at all, so in other words…he teaches men how to treat women like crap. I don’t believe in that, but everyone is entitled to free speech. I really don’t take anything he says to heart like most women do, especially the ones who get all bent out of shape. But some good has come to me by listening to Tom give unwarranted and shady advice to men. I’ve managed to keep myself out of trouble with guys that could potentially cause disaster in my life. Believe it or not, I’ve actually dated a few guys that have tried to pull a Leykis 101 on me. Now I’ve decided to follow his foot-steps and create my own 101 blog, but from a woman’s perspective. In this blog I will reveal the “signs” that will clue you in on if a man is merely interested in getting in your pants or wants an actual relationship. You will learn the shady behaviors you should look for on a first date. The checklist you should have and if he passes your test with flying colors what you should expect on the second date. How not to be clingy and needy (this is major reason why women see their relationships end so fast.) Proper etiquette every man should have when he is dating you and how long you should wait until you give it up. I do not condone the behavior of women giving it up on the first date. You break this rule…you pretty much f*ck up any potential future with your so-called “boyfriend.” A man needs to earn it. Plain and simple.<br />
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Give me ten minutes in a room with someone I’ve never met and I can read them like a book, especially men. I’m no expert but when it comes to the male mind, I’m pretty close to knowing it inside and out. I’m familiar with all the games that they play and I am here to tell you how to avoid all the bullshit and find someone who is worthy. If you are looking for a good time and no serious relationship, that’s fine—to each their own. But if you are looking for something long term then following some simple rules might help you out. I may be single, but I do date and I’ve managed to keep myself from being emotionally invested. I look for the “red flags” before I decide to let a man come into my life.<br />
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About your professor: I may only be twenty-eight years old, but I have been through hell and back with men. I had my first so-called “boyfriend” when I was eleven-years-old. So yes, I started out young. He is one of the best people I ever met and I’m still in touch with him today. My next boyfriend was at 14…then at 16….and my first “real” boyfriend was at 20. Then after that disastrous relationship, I took a break. When we broke up, I knew exactly what I wanted in a relationship the next time around. Well, it’s been five years since then and I still haven’t found it. I may be choosy but my expectations are not as high as you might think, really they aren’t. It’s not always about money or physical appearance. It’s about what’s going on in someone’s brain. I steer clear from men that have f*cked up family lives that have left them mentally unstable and or any type of major baggage that will make me regret getting involved with them down the road. I once had a date tell me that his mom annoyed him and that there were times that he’d wished he could hit her. Needless to say, after that date I was out the doo.<br />
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Living in Southern California you would think that there would be a ton of options. Sure there are, but most of the men in the Orange County population have more baggage than an airport and are seriously f*cked up in the head. Either the rich guys are socially inept or the nice guys turn out to be sissy la las. And I am not into “bad boys.” Can’t there ever be a happy medium? First of all, I’m not the type of woman to have a boyfriend for the sake of having a boyfriend. I have enough bullshit going on in my life…I don’t need to add another drama factor with a guy who isn’t right for me just so I can feel loved and secure. You women got it all wrong thinking that you have to have a man to be happy. Oh hell no, it does not work that way. That’s the first thing you need to get out of your pretty little heads. Let me just say this…women need to know that this day in age you CANNOT depend on a man for anything; financially, emotionally…etc. I don’t care if you marry the richest guy on the planet. Nothing is set stone and he could leave you without a moments notice. And guess what? You are f*cked. So women the next time you choose a man I advise you to choose wisely. This blog is the first step to acting like a lady but thinking like man. Once you get inside the male brain, life will never be the same. And sorry guys...I'm about to give away all your secrets.<br />
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