Monday, September 27, 2010

Should you make sure your partner's astrological sign is compatible with yours before committing?


Class is now in session....

A few years ago I would have never dreamed of believing in astrology. In fact, I didn't know much about it and I didn't care too. I had read horoscopes in the past and they were pure bullshit. Yeah, right like anyone could predict my day, what a crock. Then cue in my last roommate---a totally dead beat mom, and not to mention a f*ked up loser. Before her melt down, she had a very kind and spiritual side to her. During her short duration of living with me, she began to fill me in on astrological signs. Now, I’m Scorpio so I know my sign down to a tee. Everything about me/Scorpio is true to form. Plus, my father is Scorpio and he fits the description like no other---but that’s a whole another Oprah. My eye-opener about signs took place about seven months ago when I began dating someone I thought had potential. My roommate and I got to talking about him one day and she asked me what his sign was. I said he was a Cancer. And come to find out, so was she. She was quick to fill me in on the mysteriousness of a Cancer and all their traits. She described what sounded exactly like the guy I was dating. Ah yes, both of these people were troubled sensitive souls. (And I happen to have a soft spot for them.) Then my roommate revealed these ridiculous facts, like how most Cancers are typically thin. Hmm…really? So my wheels started turning on this one. I thought about all the Cancer’s I knew in my life----my sister (as thin as a rail) my then roommate (had the body of a ten-year-old boy) my co-worker (super skinny). I asked the guy I was dating about it and he said he used to be the thinnest guy in his class. The revelation took place when I was having a karaoke party that same year. It happened when this random girl showed up. She was very tall and slender; her figure kind of reminded me of my sister’s. The first thing that popped into my mind was, “Are you a Cancer?” and she said, “Yeah I am. How did you know?” Amazing. I had never met this girl in my life, but yet I was able to pick up on that? Could it be that that this astrological sign thing is actually true? Totally intrigued, I had to look up on the internet whom Scorpios are most compatible with and wouldn’t you know....Scorpio females are most compatible with Cancer males. This just spoke to me, and suddenly a lot of things in my life started to make sense. First of all, my grandfather, one of the greatest people I ever knew, was a Cancer. We got along like no other. And then there was the guy I was dating at the time--- we were so compatible, yet our lives were going in different directions. I was heartbroken that it didn’t work out. I'd never dated a Cancer until that point in time. And now I’ve convinced myself that I will end up with one. My immediate thought after all this was: is this what I’ve been doing wrong? Going out with the wrong signs? Oh I was going to find that answer out in the next few months. Flash forward to March. I had just moved in with a friend. Suddenly, every time I turn around another guy is hitting me up and wanting to going out.  I'd never in life dated as much as I did before I moved. I'll blame it on the area I lived in. Nothing ever happened there, I never met anyone. Then I moved to a party city and life changed drastically. The first guy I dated while I was living here (we will call him Steve to protect that innocent) was a Gemini. I'd never been out with a Gemini, so I knew nothing about them. He’d recently moved back to the area and wanted to take me on a date. So I said what the hell, I'll go. We met up and he seemed totally cool....until he opened his mouth. For the life of me, this guy would not shut-up. He'd go on and on about the most dull and irrelevant things. It got to the point where I just wanted to shoot myself. I mean he was nice, but he just bored me to death with all his blabbing. Sometimes he would come over and talk his ass off and end up staying until the very wee hours of the morning. Maybe if he had talked about something interesting I would have felt differently. So anyway, I went home that night and looked up the Gemini sign. I almost died when I read, “A Scorpio thinks of a Gemini as a talking parrot and finds this annoying.” Omg, it was dead on…. “Gemini’s are also flighty in behavior and child like. They also tend to look very youthful.” I thought of my uncle who's a Gemini---he looks really young for his age and he's also a flighty bastard. Interestingly enough, this guy I was dating did not look his age either. He was thirty-three in the body of a twenty-year-old. Ah yes, Gemini pegged. His sissy la la side came out on the second date when a wasp flew over his head and he screamed like a little girl. Third date, I found out he played with Legos. It wasn't long after the fourth date that his flighty behavior took affect. He emailed me one day stating that he thought he wanted to date again (he had broken up with his girlfriend three months prior) but he didn't think he was ready to be in a relationship, but he really liked me. He just wasn’t ready. Thank God because I was not down with a thirty-three-year-old man playing with Legos. Thanks! Then shortly after this guy, along came Paul--- another Gemini. Yes, these Gemini's are attracted to me like flies on shit. So I go out with Paul and this guy is the typical Gemini asshole if there ever was one. It was unbelievable what a douche this guy was. After him, I would never date a Gemini again. Been there done that--- Gemini's are out. A month later I went out with another guy named, John who was a Leo. I know all about Leo's. My very first boyfriend was a Leo: Controlling, arrogant, and it's usually their way or the highway. And yes, John fit the description of a Leo; total douche. I could not deal with it. Okay, now I had to due away with the Leo's. Let it be known that my first boyfriend made me miserable and now I understood why.
Yes, I know many people say they do not believe in astrological bullshit and to each their down. But sadly, it's sort of like a religion to me now. And I can't force anyone to believe the way I believe. Certain things pertaining to astrology in the past year have made me look at life in a different way. Now, every time I meet a guy I automatically ask his birth date. I’m not going to judge a book by its cover…but when a man is a Gemini or Leo—please stay away from me. Why date one when I know it’s going to be waste of my time? Not to mention, heartache. We can try to be friends, but we will never date. Thankfully, I still have 10 other signs left. I’ll stick with those. So do I believe we should you make sure your partner's astrological sign is compatible with yours before committing? It varies. I wouldn't say you should focus your whole life around it. Just because your sign says you are compatible with a Libra doesn’t mean you should only date Libras. Many people who believe in astrology actually don't end up with their matches. Just like my blog, astrology should be a guideline. You don't have to follow it to a tee. So here are some guidelines in the world of astrological signs for the ladies out there.

Capricorn: 12/22-1/19:

Capricorn is most compatible with Taurus, Virgo, Scorpio, Capricorn and Pisces, and is least compatible with Gemini, Aries, Cancer, Leo, Libra, Sagittarius and Aquarius.


Aquarius: 1/20-2/18
The best match for an Aquarius woman is a Gemini man. Perfectly made for each other...soul mates. Sexual attraction with them is likely to be intense, as Aquarius finds Gemini to be very attractive physically. The Gemini boy and Aquarius girl combination is excellent because you really appreciate the most interesting qualities in each other. You are both intelligent, insightful people and you will delight in the amazing conversations that you have together. You also share each other’s taste for variety and new experiences, so you’ll have a lot of fun together. Your physical chemistry is strong and romance for both of you is more creative and fun with each other than with most other signs. You will have the best of both worlds in this relationship, because you will be both great friends and great romantic partners.

Pisces: 2/19-3/20
A Scorpio or Taurus man is the best. Scorpio men love to take control over sweet Pisces woman; Taurus men are possessive too - but more home-loving and sentimental than Scorpio men.

Aries: 3/21-4/19
Most compatible with Leo, Sagittarius
Can be good with Taurus, Gemini, Aquarius, and Pisces
A 50-50 chance with Virgo, Scorpio
Doubtful with Cancer, Libra, Capricorn, Aries

Taurus: 4/20-5/20
A Leo or Aquarius. They will be confident enough to handle all of her personality flaws.


Gemini: 5/21-6/21
For a Gemini, Aries, Leo, Libra, and Aquarius are your best choices, but your opposite is Sagittarius.
Now whoever said Virgo makes the best match should be given a few stern words since Virgos, as well as Pisces, are the WORST matches for a Gemini.

Cancer: 6/22-7/22
They say that your best matches are those of your element. (Pisces, Cancer, & Scorpio)

Leo: 7/23-8/22
If you want a truly accurate answer, you'll have to look at several placements in your chart....your Moon, you Venus, your Mars, 7th house, 5th house, and Juno.
A cursory answer would be, another Fire sign would work well for you. Another Leo, a Sag, or an Aries. Also, Leo gets on with Libra pretty well.

Virgo: 8/23-9/22
If you are looking for a love partner or match, then the most likely to be paired up with Virgo women are Taurus men.

Libra: 9/23-10/22
By sun signs as you are asking, Sagittarius, Aquarius, and Gemini

Scorpio: 10/23-11/21
The best match for Scorpio is Capricorn. Cancer, Pisces, Virgo are also good matches.

Sagittarius: 11/22-12/21
Fearless Aries' love of adventure suits Sagittarius to at T! The ram's natural leadership qualities present no problems for Sags; the archer doesn't mind following as long as the road is leading somewhere.
Both of these signs are repelled by rules and share an intense love of freedom. While Aries can be a bit impulsive and quick-tempered, Sagittarius brings a level of responsibility and sound judgment to the pairing that helps keep things on an even keel.
Being creatures of action, Leos pair up well with adventurous Sagittarians. This coupling loves to travel together and also shares great enthusiasm for the arts. While Leos tend to knock heads with Taureans and wear out even the most passionate Scorpios, Sagittarians seems to provide just enough grounding to keep the relationship on track. And of course, Sagittarius has an insatiable love to know just what Leo will come up with next!

Class dismissed.





On sale now....my first novel, Forever blue, as paperback or ebook by Amazon Trade paperback publishing....

What would you do if your first love suddenly walked back into your life? This is a question Alexa Moore finds herself asking the moment she comes face to face with her childhood sweetheart, nearly fifteen years after his mysterious disappearance.

In this coming of age novel, it is the summer of 1992. Carter Storm is a precocious thirteen-year-old child actor awaiting his big break in the entertainment industry. Alexa Moore is just a regular teenager, seeking acceptance from her peers. With heartbreak and humor, these two friends expose a world of secrets and learn to survive in the face of life’s contradictions and tragedies. When Carter’s dark life suddenly unveils before Alexa’s eyes, she witnesses her best friend beaten down mercilessly by his stage mother’s antics, but Alexa’s strong will and determination helps Carter pull through his darkest hours. The two are bonded by a love that only deepens as they grow. However, Carter’s mother will do everything she can to keep them apart, so that her prodigy is not distracted. As a result, the two are forced to keep their childhood romance hidden from prying eyes. When Alex discovers Carter’s family packed up and gone without so much as a chance for goodbyes, her world shatters.
Over a decade later, Carter Storm resurfaces as a Grammy award winner, with a new name, a new life, and an entourage of screaming girls and paparazzi following him everywhere he goes. When Alexa randomly comes face to face with Carter Storm, the encounter sets off a string of events that will have her torn between the man she loves and the man she once loved. How far will she go when the man from her past suddenly walks into her future?


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Friday, September 17, 2010

Why women fall in love with fictional characters



Class is now in session...

I was seven years old when I watched my first soap opera. I remember sitting with my mother in front of the television eating a sandwich, engrossed in, “All My Children.” The character I most remember was Erica Crane. She was so glamorous. And I remember thinking to myself, “Are all women suppose to look and be this captivating?” Flash forward ten years. At this time I was addicted to another soap opera. I would come home everyday after work and immerse myself in these worthless storylines. And the thing that got to me was all the gorgeous rippled men they always seemed to cast. Somehow I got it in my mind that all my boyfriends should look like one of these guys. So I sought out to find one. I would not settle until I got what I wanted. Well, if I had continued to think this way today, I would be a very lonely girl.

First of all, women have a preconceived notion of what their future husbands/boyfriends should look like because of these Hollywood and television fairy tales. In fact, the entertainment industry has kind of brain washed women into believing they have a chance of finding their Brad Pitts. Let me tell you, finding a Brad Pitt (if that’s your type. I’m rather partial to Hugh Jackman myself) is like trying to find a needle in a haystack. And it’s not only the looks factor that we are misguided on. Women get sucked into believing that these fictional characters are true to form, as though they are going to meet prince charming and everything is going to be rainbows and butterflies…a real Hollywood romance. Uh….wrong! Take for example the Twilight movies. Almost every woman I know has a thing for Edward and I don’t know why because I find him ugly as hell, but that’s just my opinion. Anyway, women wish he were real. After this movie came out I logged onto Facebook and saw someone created group called, “Now that I’ve seen Twilight I have high expectations of men.” What? Are you kidding me? Or I heard that when the movie, Avatar, came out people were depressed and suicidal because they wanted to live in their world. Seriously? Get a life people! Let’s be real here. Most of the time the really attractive men are a bunch of a-holes and players, just because they know how good looking they are. Not only that, but most of these guys don’t seem to have a lot going on in their head. Is that what a woman really wants? A mannequin? If so she is in for a rude awakening. Although that seems to be what a man wants from a woman---the super hot brain dead bimbo. But that’s because it’s easier for them to get laid when she’s as dumb as a box of rocks. I’ve come to learn that average looking men are the ones who treat you the best. Now how often do they show that in movies? Besides, dating a mega attractive man is pretty stressful. Every where you go women will be eying your man. And then when you see him looking back you feel completely self conscious like you aren’t good enough for him. Why would you want that? I live in Orange County and people automatically think that because I live in the OC that I could come from the land of the beautiful. Eh…wrong again. Truth be told, I do not see many attractive men around here. Sure, there are a ton of attractive women, but rarely do any of the men in Orange County catch my attention. And I’m not talking about them having to be perfect…but rarely do I even see half decent. Then just the other day I was sitting at Coffee Bean and I look across from me and see a young guy with the most perfect face---nearly model
quality. He was the typical tall, dark and handsome. I looked at him and said to myself, “This guy looks like nothing but trouble.” Not to mention probably one of the biggest assholes on the planet. But hey, never judge a book by its cover. I just rather not deal with it.

Most women whom center their life around fictional characters are usually unhappy with themselves and their own lives. Obviously, reality is not something they want to endure. This fantasy of meeting the nearly perfect man they saw on television the night before sounds better than real life. First of all, if a woman is not happy with herself, she should not be focusing on trying to find Mr. Perfect or any man for that matter. They need to love thy self before they can love anyone else. This may sound cliché, but it’s the God’s honest truth.

Class dismissed.





On sale now....my first novel, Forever blue, as paperback or ebook by Amazon Trade paperback publishing....

What would you do if your first love suddenly walked back into your life? This is a question Alexa Moore finds herself asking the moment she comes face to face with her childhood sweetheart, nearly fifteen years after his mysterious disappearance.

In this coming of age novel, it is the summer of 1992. Carter Storm is a precocious thirteen-year-old child actor awaiting his big break in the entertainment industry. Alexa Moore is just a regular teenager, seeking acceptance from her peers. With heartbreak and humor, these two friends expose a world of secrets and learn to survive in the face of life’s contradictions and tragedies. When Carter’s dark life suddenly unveils before Alexa’s eyes, she witnesses her best friend beaten down mercilessly by his stage mother’s antics, but Alexa’s strong will and determination helps Carter pull through his darkest hours. The two are bonded by a love that only deepens as they grow. However, Carter’s mother will do everything she can to keep them apart, so that her prodigy is not distracted. As a result, the two are forced to keep their childhood romance hidden from prying eyes. When Alex discovers Carter’s family packed up and gone without so much as a chance for goodbyes, her world shatters.
Over a decade later, Carter Storm resurfaces as a Grammy award winner, with a new name, a new life, and an entourage of screaming girls and paparazzi following him everywhere he goes. When Alexa randomly comes face to face with Carter Storm, the encounter sets off a string of events that will have her torn between the man she loves and the man she once loved. How far will she go when the man from her past suddenly walks into her future?


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Thursday, September 2, 2010

Ask The Professor


So starting this Thursday, every Thursday will be “Ask Professor Edlund” day where I will take emails about your questions or dilemma and answer them on my blog, since a lot of you losers out there don’t know what the hell you are doing. Yes, I am here to help you out with the obvious. And reiterate the Edlund 101 Rules. So let’s get to it, shall we?

Can you attempt my class.....



Hey Professor Edlund, your blog interests me. I have a question. At what stage in dating (after how long) would I be able to invite a lady for a weekend overnight trip? Andy- Austin, Texas

Andy,

First of all, please tell me that this woman is your girlfriend and second, if you are thinking about taking her on a trip like this she better be putting out. We no longer live in a society where we go on fancy vacations with our boyfriends and get separate rooms. That’s ludicrous. If she thinks she’s going to get away with that then she should not be going on any over night trips with you in the first place. Of course there are exceptions to the rule, like if you two are *ahem* highly religious church goers. I know plenty of Moron people who travel together and have separate rooms. But if that’s not the case, you best be getting laid before the trip or the night of. When men spend large amounts of money on a woman for a fancy vacations or trips they expect certain things---let’s just say it’s sort of like a return on their investment. I know, I hate to admit it, but it’s the sad truth. Most importantly, remember I only condone this type of behavior if you are in a serious relationship.

Professor Edlund 101, I was wondering how long in dating (months) before a guy knows if the girl is a keeper or just for fun? – Anonymous – Jacksonville, Florida

If a girl follows the Edlund 101 rules, a guy will know she’s a keeper. But seriously, usually a man can tell within the first five minutes of meeting a woman if she is a keeper…meaning if he’s sexually attracted or not. First his penis has to go “Schwiiiing” and then that little pea brain of his will actually start to think logically. I know that when I’m a date it’s within the first TEN minutes that I discover if I’ll ever want to date the dude again. But like I’ve said before, there are warning signs that should be able to tell you if she’s just for fun or to be taken seriously. Say for instance if she fools around or sleeps with you on the first date, she’s out indefinitely. These types of women are nothing more than play things. A woman who has some class and doesn’t let a man walk all over her is a keeper.


Hi there! If a woman has sex on the 4th date, do most guys think she is easy? – Anonymous

Unless she is in a monogamous relationship by the fourth date…then yes, most guys should think she’s easy. Edlund 101 followers do not have sex unless we are in a committed monogamous relationship. Period. So it really doesn’t matter if it’s the first date or the tenth.

Professor, in your opinion, discuss how important physical attractiveness is when meeting or dating a potential long-term partner? Lynn- Portland, OR

Lynn,

When I was younger I thought I had a type. I was only going to date the dark, tall and handsome. Ha, that’s like trying to find a needle in a haystack. If I was a man I would have no problem finding someone in the looks department because there are so many better looking women than there are men, is that not true? Well, not too long ago I met someone who changed my whole perspective on “types.” I had usually gone for the preppy type…clean cut, thin, no tats, baby-faced and no facial hair. And this man I acquired feelings for was far from my type physically. But couldn’t help the strong physical attraction from the moment we met. Even though he wasn’t what anyone would consider good looking, I saw past his flaws. There was more to him then just his exterior and I think it was his spirit that made him shine. After him, my so-called “type” went to the wind. I started meeting other men and listening to my gut instinct. If there was any type of attraction, I would go on a date with him. I didn’t matter to me if he didn’t look like Hugh Jackman, in fact it didn’t matter to me what he looked liked as long there was some sort of physical attraction. If I can’t imagine myself waking up next to the person for the next fifty years, then he probably isn’t the guy for me. I think “type” is just some fantasy made up in our head. We’ve been brain washed by Hollywood and all these ridiculously good looking people we see in movies and soap operas. It taunts us into a false sense hope when the reality is that we will probably never end up with a Brad Pitt. And if we try to strive for only the Brad Pitts in the world then we are going to end up sad, lonely old women.


Tune in next week for another Edition of “Ask The Professor”. You can send your comments or questions to Edlund101@yahoo.com






On sale now....my first novel, Forever blue, as paperback or ebook by Amazon Trade paperback publishing....

What would you do if your first love suddenly walked back into your life? This is a question Alexa Moore finds herself asking the moment she comes face to face with her childhood sweetheart, nearly fifteen years after his mysterious disappearance.

In this coming of age novel, it is the summer of 1992. Carter Storm is a precocious thirteen-year-old child actor awaiting his big break in the entertainment industry. Alexa Moore is just a regular teenager, seeking acceptance from her peers. With heartbreak and humor, these two friends expose a world of secrets and learn to survive in the face of life’s contradictions and tragedies. When Carter’s dark life suddenly unveils before Alexa’s eyes, she witnesses her best friend beaten down mercilessly by his stage mother’s antics, but Alexa’s strong will and determination helps Carter pull through his darkest hours. The two are bonded by a love that only deepens as they grow. However, Carter’s mother will do everything she can to keep them apart, so that her prodigy is not distracted. As a result, the two are forced to keep their childhood romance hidden from prying eyes. When Alex discovers Carter’s family packed up and gone without so much as a chance for goodbyes, her world shatters.
Over a decade later, Carter Storm resurfaces as a Grammy award winner, with a new name, a new life, and an entourage of screaming girls and paparazzi following him everywhere he goes. When Alexa randomly comes face to face with Carter Storm, the encounter sets off a string of events that will have her torn between the man she loves and the man she once loved. How far will she go when the man from her past suddenly walks into her future?


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Wednesday, September 1, 2010

Being Complete As A Woman Without A Man


Class is now in session....


Being a single woman (by choice) I often wonder why so many other women feel that they cannot be complete without a man. I mean, is that that important? Shit, there’s so much more to life than having a boyfriend. And yet some women feel it’s so necessary that they will have a boyfriend even if they know the guy is totally wrong from them. I’ll admit that I was influenced at the tender age of eleven. Believe it or not, having a boyfriend was what every girl wanted at my age. As early as fifth grade, girls already had boyfriends. And I said to myself, “Damn it. I’m going to get one too!” And so I did. Of course it was nowhere near an adult relationship, but he turned out to be someone I would not be able to forget. And I guess he was the reason why I couldn’t wait to grow up and join the dating world. Ugh, how sorry I would be. Everything would just start spiraling downward. Soon enough I would go through a series of bad boyfriends and failed relationships. Thank God I eventually wised up at twenty-five and no longer allowed these losers to take control of my life. I’m not going to lie. It’s nice to feel loved by the opposite sex, but for me it’s nice to feel loved by the RIGHT guy. Not just some random dude because I feel lonely. Yeah right.

Over my lifetime I’ve come across numerous amounts of women whom are completely obsessed with dating and having boyfriends. It’s gotten to the point where it’s taken over their lives. They simple can’t function when they are single and it’s as though a man is like some sort of security blanket. Dating is no longer fun for them; it’s a necessity. They believe that if they don’t have a diamond ring on their finger by a certain age they will won’t be able to exist. Really now? Maybe it was that way back in the 50s, but not in this generation. And speaking of dysfunctional---two years ago, I had a friend who had a completely warped sense of reality, especially when it came to men. We got to talking and I asked her to tell me about her five-year goal plan. This is exactly what she said:

-Find a boyfriend (within the year)
-Get engaged by age 29 (a year after we meet)
-Get married by age 30 (at least a year after being engaged)
-Get pregnant and have a kid by age 31 (a year after being married)
-Have another kid (a year after)

All I could think of at that moment was, “Seriously?” No where on that list did I see anything substantial like--- get a degree, buy a house, etc etc…Everything was based on the need of finding a man. This was also the girl who told men on the first date about her life long plans and scared them away within the first hour of meeting. First of all, I wanted to tell this bitch that nothing in life goes according to plan. We all wish it could, but nothing ever goes the way we want. If that were true then I would have both my novels published, be married to some super hot sexy dude and be rolling in dough. Sorry, only in the dream world, honey.

What sickens me even more are the girls whom get married extremely young. Please, please, please can someone advise on me why women throw their lives away like this? If they are so in love why can’t they just hold off until they are at least twenty-five? We all know what happens to the ones who get married under twenty….it never lasts. Such a waste if you ask me. Seriously, I think there should be a law prohibiting morons under the age of twenty-five from marrying.

You see, I have ton of goals that I want to accomplish before I get into all this mumbo jumbo. I’m a fiction writer and I plan on getting my novels published and making a name for myself. For me its career, and then maybe marriage. I know from first hand experience that when I’m trying to focus on my goals and a man comes into the picture….I get sidetracked. I can’t let that happen anymore. Nothing good comes from it and it’s just a complete waste of my time.

But what I want to know is: What is so wrong with the single life? Is having the freedom to do what you want such a bad thing? Why do women insist on being tied down by their controlling boyfriends? Do women get off on that type of shit? Maybe so. Of course, no one wants to be single and lonely forever. But sometimes it’s nice to sit back, smell the roses and not get involved in the relationship drama. There is a time and place for everything. Being in a relationship should not be anyone’s number one goal in life. Ladies, it’s not that end of the world if you are single for awhile.

As I’ve said before, this day in age we women cannot depend on a man for anything. We must be self sufficient; make our own money, hold down a job, be totally independent. We never know what might happen down the road after we get married or end up in a serious relationship where we think our men will supposedly take care of us forever. Nothing is ever set in stone and we need to prepare ourselves for the inevitable. It’s sad, but that’s the world we live in today—it’s every man/woman for themselves.

Class dismissed.





On sale now....my first novel, Forever blue, as paperback or ebook by Amazon Trade paperback publishing....

What would you do if your first love suddenly walked back into your life? This is a question Alexa Moore finds herself asking the moment she comes face to face with her childhood sweetheart, nearly fifteen years after his mysterious disappearance.

In this coming of age novel, it is the summer of 1992. Carter Storm is a precocious thirteen-year-old child actor awaiting his big break in the entertainment industry. Alexa Moore is just a regular teenager, seeking acceptance from her peers. With heartbreak and humor, these two friends expose a world of secrets and learn to survive in the face of life’s contradictions and tragedies. When Carter’s dark life suddenly unveils before Alexa’s eyes, she witnesses her best friend beaten down mercilessly by his stage mother’s antics, but Alexa’s strong will and determination helps Carter pull through his darkest hours. The two are bonded by a love that only deepens as they grow. However, Carter’s mother will do everything she can to keep them apart, so that her prodigy is not distracted. As a result, the two are forced to keep their childhood romance hidden from prying eyes. When Alex discovers Carter’s family packed up and gone without so much as a chance for goodbyes, her world shatters.
Over a decade later, Carter Storm resurfaces as a Grammy award winner, with a new name, a new life, and an entourage of screaming girls and paparazzi following him everywhere he goes. When Alexa randomly comes face to face with Carter Storm, the encounter sets off a string of events that will have her torn between the man she loves and the man she once loved. How far will she go when the man from her past suddenly walks into her future?


Purchase for ebook at Amazon or Barnes and Noble:




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Monday, August 30, 2010

Reasons To Avoid Overly Flirtatious Men


It's Monday and time for another edition of Edlund 101.

Class is now in session.....


Every woman will meet one once in her lifetime----that one charmer who will sweep her off her feet and make her feel like she’s the only woman in the world. Ah, then she discovers not long after that he is flirty and sweet with every woman he meets. And the best part is that he acts like it’s no big deal. Don’t feel so special anymore do you? You try to tell yourself that he is just a nice guy and that’s just his personality. Girl, if you keep telling yourself this--- dating Mr. Flirty could have some serious consequences.

My friend Michelle knew exactly what she was getting into with the last guy she dated. He was adored by numerous amounts of women and he was often talked about as, “so sweet and charming.” Everywhere he went, women draped themselves all over him. So when she started dating him…. shit hit the fan---when these women found out, that is. They would go parties and some of the women whom adored him happened to be there. These women would dog her, whisper behind her back, call him and make up stories about something he did at a party when he wasn’t there. Oh yes, we all know how vicious females can be when we step into their territory. Now, before they started dating regularly this man didn’t give a shit about what these other women thought. And he would make Michelle the center of attention whenever they were in groups with other people. But once they started seeing each other on a regular basis, he kind of wanted to keep it on the down low. That’s when things started to change. Reason being, he thought he “had” her. Now she would show up at parties and he would act like they were just friends. And she watched him flirt like it was no big deal. She even caught him sneaking away at parties with other women. God only knows what was going on then. But of course, she gave him the benefit of the doubt. The thing is, when they were alone together he would revert back into that sweet guy. He was always into her and never flirted with anyone when we were alone together. Unfortunately, in the end she found out he had an ego the size of Texas----sorry he couldn’t have his cake and eat it too. DTB!

And here’s another classic case. I went out with a guy who seemed to be all right by my standards. After a couple dates everything seemed to be going fine. Then I guess he got comfortable with me or something and I was about to see his true colors. One night we went to a restaurant called, The Yard House, for a quick bite and a drink. We happened to get a cute female server. She wasn’t a super model or anything, but she was definitely attractive, I can’t deny that. But apparently this guy thought she was the hottest thing in Orange County. So he decides to blatantly flirt with her and none the less, right in front of me. When she walked away after bringing out our appetizer, I observed him looking around for her like it was nothing and I was thinking, “Are you kidding me right now?” So I asked him, “So do you think she’s cute?” At that point I didn’t care what his answer was because I already made up my mind that I was never going to see this guy again. But he said to me, “No, I’m not a douche like that.” Yeah right. “Maybe you should get her number.” And he just thought that comment was hilarious. So did that stop him from continuing to scope out that server every time she came by? Nope. At the end of the night I said to him again, “Really, I think you like her. You should get her number.” And once again, he just laughed.” I knew what he was thinking. What a douche.

What it really comes down to is that the overly flirtatious men are really nothing but trouble. You can’t trust them as far as you can throw them. There is nothing wrong with your man being kind and sweet to his/your female friends, but if he’s taking it to the extreme, you need to watch for the red flags. One thing is for sure---usually these types of men turn out to be womanizers. Yeah, it may seem cute at first that your man gets along with everyone so well, but eventually it gets really old. It gets the point where you can’t recognize if he is just being friendly, or just being friendly, if you know what I mean. Avoid these types of men at all costs. It’s not worth looking over your shoulder every five minutes wondering what he’s up to next.

Class dismissed.





On sale now....my first novel, Forever blue, as paperback or ebook by Amazon Trade paperback publishing....

What would you do if your first love suddenly walked back into your life? This is a question Alexa Moore finds herself asking the moment she comes face to face with her childhood sweetheart, nearly fifteen years after his mysterious disappearance.

In this coming of age novel, it is the summer of 1992. Carter Storm is a precocious thirteen-year-old child actor awaiting his big break in the entertainment industry. Alexa Moore is just a regular teenager, seeking acceptance from her peers. With heartbreak and humor, these two friends expose a world of secrets and learn to survive in the face of life’s contradictions and tragedies. When Carter’s dark life suddenly unveils before Alexa’s eyes, she witnesses her best friend beaten down mercilessly by his stage mother’s antics, but Alexa’s strong will and determination helps Carter pull through his darkest hours. The two are bonded by a love that only deepens as they grow. However, Carter’s mother will do everything she can to keep them apart, so that her prodigy is not distracted. As a result, the two are forced to keep their childhood romance hidden from prying eyes. When Alex discovers Carter’s family packed up and gone without so much as a chance for goodbyes, her world shatters.
Over a decade later, Carter Storm resurfaces as a Grammy award winner, with a new name, a new life, and an entourage of screaming girls and paparazzi following him everywhere he goes. When Alexa randomly comes face to face with Carter Storm, the encounter sets off a string of events that will have her torn between the man she loves and the man she once loved. How far will she go when the man from her past suddenly walks into her future?


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Friday, August 27, 2010

Prying Versus Privacy in Relationships


Class is now in session.....




We all know that in order to have any successful relationship we must rely on one key element: Trust. Without this, we pretty much have nothing. And lets face it, most women don’t have the trust factor whether their man does right by them or not. I’ll admit that I’ve been guilty of prying and spying on several occasions. The first time it happened was in my first “real” relationship when I was twenty. My boyfriend had gone to take a shower and I was sitting in his bedroom. There I was minding my own business when I saw his journal peeping out from underneath his bed. Suddenly this evil switch went off in my brain. It was the moment of truth. Would I be gutsy enough to open that leather bound notebook or pretend like I never saw it? Might I mention that I had some slight reservations about my then boyfriend? I wasn’t exactly an old pro at the dating game at that time, but I had a lot of mixed feelings about him. Only later would I learn that my intuition would never again steer me wrong. Anyway, I felt that if I read that journal maybe I would gain some insight into what was going on in his mind---or maybe I was just looking for “things.” Whatever it was I had a bunch of conflicting feelings going on inside me at that moment. My eyes went from the bathroom to the journal, from the bathroom to the journal. I only had so much time to think about my actions. Finally, I made up my mind. I’d just open it and take a quick glance. I wasn’t hurting anyone right? He’d never have to know. So I got on the floor and opened it just a crack. What made it sort of easier was that it was already bookmarked to his last entry. Again, my eyes slide from the bathroom to the journal. My pulse was racing, I began to sweat. What if he came back the moment I started reading it? Nope, impossible, I told myself. I could still hear the water running from the shower. I called my attention back to the journal. My eyes scanned the page, searching for any type of incriminating evidence; maybe a girlfriend on the side? Or another date he’d been on? But instead I got the biggest surprise, “Tomorrow is Jennifer’s birthday and I want to take her out…” I immediately stopped reading. That was good enough for me. No more worries *whew* at least for the time being. Given the chance, I probably would have read more but at the same time I knew what I was doing was completely wrong.

All of us have had those moments of insecurity where we felt the need to snoop on our significant other. I think???? I guess the good news for the snoopers is that nobody can really get away with shady shit anymore. Unless you’ve been living under a rock, you know we live in an age of electronic paper trails. We can track anything from the cell phone calls to the text messages. But everything has its loop holes and let’s not forget the guys whom are really good at covering their tracks. Of course, there’s always someone out there who will slip up and get caught. For me personally, I believe that when you are dating someone you should both keep your private lives to yourself. Of course this changes when you are married, uh---somewhat. But I don’t believe you have a right to your partner’s passwords, emails or facebook account. That’s a sign of someone who is extremely insecure in the relationship. The bottom line is--- if you trust the person you are with it shouldn’t be an issue to begin with. You both should be trust worthy enough to do your own thing without having to be in each others business all the time.

Years ago, there was an incident when I had some suspicions about another guy I was dating. It really only had to do with his age. He told me he was thirty, but somehow I sensed he was much older. So I used my most valuable resource---the internet. It took me about three minutes to look him up on “People Search,” and find out everything I ever wanted to know about him. Ah, the good old information super highway. And what do you know? He was nowhere near thirty. Try like forty-two. Now would you call that invading his privacy or watching my back?

At the beginning of the year I dated a guy who I had absolutely no qualms about. He was honest to a fault by telling me all about his skeletons in the closet. Ah, but just when everything was fine and dandy, my boss convinced me to do a background check on him with this super high tech program that police officers use. All he needed was his first and last name and this program would tell me EVERYTHING about him—arrests, driving records and tickets, DUIs, prior marriages, who he was living with, court appearances, bankruptcies, you name it. And of course, my boss cajoled me into doing this. Sure enough, I found out everything (no arrests, thank God.) I even got a satellite view of his house. Need I say that I totally felt like shit after I did this? Now THIS to me was an invasion of privacy.

Then of course we have the other side of the situation where we women are attempted by the crooked men we date. My friend briefly dated someone who had many of the same female “acquaintances” that she did. So there they are in the middle of dinner and he gets a gaggle of text messages from these “acquaintances." Let me just say that she had her suspicions about him from day one and this totally confirmed it. While she was sitting next to him, her eyes slid over to the screen of his cell phone. Sure enough, he’s being summoned by a pack of needy females that she recognized and he’s sitting there trying to be all slick about it. Oh hell no. She DTB (Dumped that bastard/bitch) as fast as she could.

I have a no fail method to finding out if your man is doing shit with other women behind your back. When you are out to dinner somewhere and he gets up to go to the restroom---tell him you’ll watch his cell phone for him while he’s away. Yeah, see how he reacts to that. He’ll either get all defensive about it and say no it’s okay, he’s got this (warning sign number one) or he’ll leave the cell phone with you and lock it (warning sign number two). If he has nothing to hide, he’ll won’t even think twice about leaving the phone. He’ll just walk away and do what he’s got to do. It also kind of lets you in on how much he trusts you as well.

Finally, let’s not forget about all the women whom are paranoid as hell after being cheated on. It’s extremely hard for these types of women not to scrutinize every waking detail when they are with their man. And I really feel for bad them, I do. But sometimes you just have to let go and have faith. I believe that the women who’ve been cheated on develop some sort of sixth sense. If they sense that their man is doing something seedy behind their back, his probably is. The only thing they can do is try to ease their conscious by getting to the bottom of their suspicions. Once a woman has been cheated on, it’s always in the back of their mind, no matter what. Kind of like having a nasty scare that you can’t get rid of for the rest of your life.

When you get down to it, everyone is entitled to their privacy. As hard as it may be we need to respect our partners and set some boundaries. If you’re someone who can’t learn to accept this then it’s time for you to reconsider your relationship at hand. But I can tell you right now, when I get into a relationship with a man, he doesn’t get away with shit with me. And I don’t have to pry to know what’s going on….just call it my sixth sense.

Class dismissed.





On sale now....my first novel, Forever blue, as paperback or ebook by Amazon Trade paperback publishing....

What would you do if your first love suddenly walked back into your life? This is a question Alexa Moore finds herself asking the moment she comes face to face with her childhood sweetheart, nearly fifteen years after his mysterious disappearance.

In this coming of age novel, it is the summer of 1992. Carter Storm is a precocious thirteen-year-old child actor awaiting his big break in the entertainment industry. Alexa Moore is just a regular teenager, seeking acceptance from her peers. With heartbreak and humor, these two friends expose a world of secrets and learn to survive in the face of life’s contradictions and tragedies. When Carter’s dark life suddenly unveils before Alexa’s eyes, she witnesses her best friend beaten down mercilessly by his stage mother’s antics, but Alexa’s strong will and determination helps Carter pull through his darkest hours. The two are bonded by a love that only deepens as they grow. However, Carter’s mother will do everything she can to keep them apart, so that her prodigy is not distracted. As a result, the two are forced to keep their childhood romance hidden from prying eyes. When Alex discovers Carter’s family packed up and gone without so much as a chance for goodbyes, her world shatters.
Over a decade later, Carter Storm resurfaces as a Grammy award winner, with a new name, a new life, and an entourage of screaming girls and paparazzi following him everywhere he goes. When Alexa randomly comes face to face with Carter Storm, the encounter sets off a string of events that will have her torn between the man she loves and the man she once loved. How far will she go when the man from her past suddenly walks into her future?


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Monday, August 23, 2010

Welcome to Edlund 101...I am your professor.


Class is now in session.

Welcome to first blog entry of Edlund 101. First I want to start off by telling you why I created this blog. Call me crazy, but for years I was a fan of Tom Leykis on 97.1 FM. Sadly, the whole radio station was axed in February 2009---the highlight of my afternoon-- my form of entertainment….. stolen right from under me. Each day, I drove an hour home and this was my outlet to get me to stop thinking about the nasty freeway traffic. But let’s be clear on something. In no way do I follow the “Tom Leykis rules” of dating. As I said, he was purely entertainment and I got a kick out of every dumb ass caller he brought on the air. Sometimes you need a good laugh when you are sitting in traffic that’s comparable to a parking lot. Although, I have to admit that some of the things he said about women and men are DEAD ON. You see, Tom teaches men how to get tail for less money or no money at all, so in other words…he teaches men how to treat women like crap. I don’t believe in that, but everyone is entitled to free speech. I really don’t take anything he says to heart like most women do, especially the ones who get all bent out of shape. But some good has come to me by listening to Tom give unwarranted and shady advice to men. I’ve managed to keep myself out of trouble with guys that could potentially cause disaster in my life. Believe it or not, I’ve actually dated a few guys that have tried to pull a Leykis 101 on me. Now I’ve decided to follow his foot-steps and create my own 101 blog, but from a woman’s perspective. In this blog I will reveal the “signs” that will clue you in on if a man is merely interested in getting in your pants or wants an actual relationship. You will learn the shady behaviors you should look for on a first date. The checklist you should have and if he passes your test with flying colors what you should expect on the second date. How not to be clingy and needy (this is major reason why women see their relationships end so fast.) Proper etiquette every man should have when he is dating you and how long you should wait until you give it up. I do not condone the behavior of women giving it up on the first date. You break this rule…you pretty much f*ck up any potential future with your so-called “boyfriend.” A man needs to earn it. Plain and simple.

Give me ten minutes in a room with someone I’ve never met and I can read them like a book, especially men. I’m no expert but when it comes to the male mind, I’m pretty close to knowing it inside and out. I’m familiar with all the games that they play and I am here to tell you how to avoid all the bullshit and find someone who is worthy. If you are looking for a good time and no serious relationship, that’s fine—to each their own. But if you are looking for something long term then following some simple rules might help you out. I may be single, but I do date and I’ve managed to keep myself from being emotionally invested. I look for the “red flags” before I decide to let a man come into my life.

About your professor: I may only be twenty-eight years old, but I have been through hell and back with men. I had my first so-called “boyfriend” when I was eleven-years-old. So yes, I started out young. He is one of the best people I ever met and I’m still in touch with him today. My next boyfriend was at 14…then at 16….and my first “real” boyfriend was at 20. Then after that disastrous relationship, I took a break. When we broke up, I knew exactly what I wanted in a relationship the next time around. Well, it’s been five years since then and I still haven’t found it. I may be choosy but my expectations are not as high as you might think, really they aren’t. It’s not always about money or physical appearance. It’s about what’s going on in someone’s brain. I steer clear from men that have f*cked up family lives that have left them mentally unstable and or any type of major baggage that will make me regret getting involved with them down the road. I once had a date tell me that his mom annoyed him and that there were times that he’d wished he could hit her. Needless to say, after that date I was out the doo.

Living in Southern California you would think that there would be a ton of options. Sure there are, but most of the men in the Orange County population have more baggage than an airport and are seriously f*cked up in the head. Either the rich guys are socially inept or the nice guys turn out to be sissy la las. And I am not into “bad boys.” Can’t there ever be a happy medium? First of all, I’m not the type of woman to have a boyfriend for the sake of having a boyfriend. I have enough bullshit going on in my life…I don’t need to add another drama factor with a guy who isn’t right for me just so I can feel loved and secure. You women got it all wrong thinking that you have to have a man to be happy. Oh hell no, it does not work that way. That’s the first thing you need to get out of your pretty little heads. Let me just say this…women need to know that this day in age you CANNOT depend on a man for anything; financially, emotionally…etc. I don’t care if you marry the richest guy on the planet. Nothing is set stone and he could leave you without a moments notice. And guess what? You are f*cked. So women the next time you choose a man I advise you to choose wisely. This blog is the first step to acting like a lady but thinking like man. Once you get inside the male brain, life will never be the same. And sorry guys...I'm about to give away all your secrets.

Class Dismissed.



On sale now....my first novel, Forever blue, as paperback or ebook by Amazon Trade paperback publishing....

What would you do if your first love suddenly walked back into your life? This is a question Alexa Moore finds herself asking the moment she comes face to face with her childhood sweetheart, nearly fifteen years after his mysterious disappearance.

In this coming of age novel, it is the summer of 1992. Carter Storm is a precocious thirteen-year-old child actor awaiting his big break in the entertainment industry. Alexa Moore is just a regular teenager, seeking acceptance from her peers. With heartbreak and humor, these two friends expose a world of secrets and learn to survive in the face of life’s contradictions and tragedies. When Carter’s dark life suddenly unveils before Alexa’s eyes, she witnesses her best friend beaten down mercilessly by his stage mother’s antics, but Alexa’s strong will and determination helps Carter pull through his darkest hours. The two are bonded by a love that only deepens as they grow. However, Carter’s mother will do everything she can to keep them apart, so that her prodigy is not distracted. As a result, the two are forced to keep their childhood romance hidden from prying eyes. When Alex discovers Carter’s family packed up and gone without so much as a chance for goodbyes, her world shatters.
Over a decade later, Carter Storm resurfaces as a Grammy award winner, with a new name, a new life, and an entourage of screaming girls and paparazzi following him everywhere he goes. When Alexa randomly comes face to face with Carter Storm, the encounter sets off a string of events that will have her torn between the man she loves and the man she once loved. How far will she go when the man from her past suddenly walks into her future?


Purchase for ebook at Amazon or Barnes and Noble:




Or paperback at Amazon or Barnes and Noble: